“Bismillah ar Rehman ar Raheem, alhumdullilah he Rab il Alamin, 
Al Rehman ar Raheem, noor al samaat ul arz, 

My brothers, my sisters, dear belivers
the best greetings of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala to 
all of you 
and upon all the bright faces that makes “sajood” to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
 to all the sincere hearts that finds comfort, happiness, satisfaction, content,
trust, success with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala.
Today’s topic, today’s reminder, 
60 ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
It is really an extremely important issue
Important reminder
For each and everyone of us
It doesn’t mean
You have to apply all the 60
Ways, or you must apply the 60 ways to keep your
Wife happy 
No 
But sometimes, 
You are 
Not paying attention to one of these 60 ways
That is really
Putting a hole in your relationship
Putting a hole in your boat
The boat of your marriage
The boat of your life
So basically
Some of us could apply these 60 ways
Some of us
Could apply half of them
But really you want to be 
A champion
The art of love
The art of great
Dealing, in a husband to wife relationship
Take a look at these 60 ways and you will really find that each and everyone of us 
Will need them and why I start to chose the sisters, with the wife, 
Because they say
when the man is happy at home, that means
one person is happy
but when the wife is happy at home,
that means the whole family is happy.
And inshAllah in the near future
We will Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala for will produce
60 ways to keep the love of your husband guarateed
Speaking of the wife
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared in the Quran
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declaring that “from His signs
That He created for you, 
from you, maids, means wives and
what for?  so you may dwell in tranquility”
and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala caused among you
love and mercy
so therefore, Muslim scholars, 
for this particular ayah, concluded that the greatest achievement of a marriage 
it is tranquility, sakeena
if you have no sakeena
if you have no tranquility in your marriage,
you have no marriage
you have sikina, not sakeena
sikina is a knife, 
sakeena mean tranquility, love, peace, comfort
I will exhibit these 60 ways 
with the help of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala explaining briefly
what does it mean
this particular point or that point
and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala will help each and everyone of us
to take, pick and choose
some of us would like to practice all the 60, some of us would say
you know what? I’m a champion already in all these 60 points
but this is a reminder for me
take a look at this where Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
showed us
that
your wife, it is a trust
she’s a trust in your hand
and rasulullah(SAW) particularly declared that, that 
this wife is a trust in your hand, so let us go
one point
after the second point
60 ways to keep the love of your wife guaranteed, we’ll start with the first point
Which is 
Make her feel secure
Make her feel secure
Make her feel that sakeena,
That tranquility.
Quit the gum of the shaitaan
Quit the gum that you would get from the super market of Iblees the shaitaan, naooz-billah man
And that gum called, I will divorce you, I’m gonna kick you out of home
I’m going to get rid of you
Quit that gum
That could put a hole
In your marriage
Second point Assalamualaikum
When you go home
You say Assalamualaikum wa rehmatullah 
This particular great positive energy and this great greeting
That rasulullah(SAW) taught us. It will kick the shaitaan out of your home. 
A brother
Said I came home and suddenly I get so angry at my wife
But really,
She was wise. she just took off and went to other room
I said uh-oh, I didn’t pay attention that when I came home
I didn’t say Assalamualaikum. He said wallahe,
I left home, went outside for few seconds,
And I came back home and I said Assalamualaikum wa rehmatullah,
Nobody could hear me but the evening ended in love 
And jokes
That’s why
That particular greeting
It will kick the shaitaan out of your home, out of your marriage
Point no. 3 
rasulullah(SAW) urged us and described that your wife is a 
fragile whistle
take care of this fragile whistle
and remember
I’m adding that part
That means, in this particular whistle, I’m not adding this part to hadith rasulullah(SAW)
No innovation, no touching of hadith rasulullah(SAW).
But I’m saying that
in this particular whistle
there’s goodness, there’s a lot of goodness, and rasulullah(SAW)
asked us to treat this particular whistle
in a gentle way
what does that mean?
point no. 4
that means
when you want to advice her
this is one way to keep her love
when you want to advice her
advice her in privacy
advice her
at the best time that 
there is
some kind of
love atmosphere
some kind of romantic atmosphere
some kind of peaceful atmosphere
don’t advice her in the public
intend advising me 
in a privacy
avoid advising me in the public
advice in the public is type of slandering
I don’t accept, I don’t 
listen to
this is what the poet said
so sometimes to administrate and to inject that nice 
request you have
or advice
it, choose the best time, choose the time when the mood is good and happy
you’ll keep her love
point no.5
being generous with your wife
being generous with her
it shows us that
you are
kind
and your status with Allah is god because your generosity
with your wife is a direct business with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
and it is direct credit to her heart
to be generous with your wife, it keeps her love
point no.6
what does it mean?
when your wife is coming and you are sitting down
you say, here honey
you move
you say, here, have a seat
I warmed the seat for you
you warmed the seat for her
she will warm her heart for you 
now when you move and you give her space
have a seat. these particular points  my brothers, my sisters
they may sound simple but they can go a long way in the heart
and they can really make your life happy
they can make a great difference
my brothers, my sisters, no.7
means avoid anger
avoid anger. how? keep wadoo
keep wadoo at all the times
some of you, some of us may get angrybrasulullah(SAW) showed us 
what we’re supposed to aware of, when you get angry, sit down
that’s what rasulullah(SAW) taught us
if you’re sitting down, lie down 
lie down even on the floor
some of us will say, you know, if I lie down, she will come and kick me in the stomach
no
she would not kick you in the stomach
you will kick the shaitaan out of your stomach
avoid anger
my brothers, my sisters, point no.8
means looking good, smelling great
look good for your wife, it keeps the love
smell great for your wife, it keeps the love
and Islamically by the way, you could spend
a god amount of your wealth on perfume and smelling good, Islamically it’s okay
Islamically it’s desired and it’s preferred
these important matters my brothers, my sisters
 can make a huge difference 
in our life
it can really
make us or break us
no. 9
what does that mean?
don’t be rigid
you’ll be broken
some brothers will think, for me to be rigid, that means I’m a man, you know
no, rasulullah(SAW) taught us that
I’m the best among you 
and I’m the best to my 
wife
this is what rasulullah(SAW) said. so being rigid,
you don’t get close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
being harsh hearted, you don’t get close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
no. 10 husnal istimaa
this is really important, that use this particular satellite
but channel that
to your wife
because sometimes
these particular 
people who complain about there husband and 
they come to the masjid and they go and get some counseling they do
that really they don’t want you to solve their problem
they don’t want the husband to solve their problem, they just want a good listener
be that good listener
husnal istimaa
11
it means, yes
for flattering
no, for arguing
arguing it is a serious
poison for the relationship, for the marriage
al uza, may Allah be pleased with him said
when Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala wants to cause
people, evil
Allah would leave them arguing, disputing among themselves
therefore, my brothers, my sisters, 
yes, for flattering
no, for arguing. it will keep the love of your wife.
sixty ways to keep the love of your wife guaranteed
now we go to 12
rasulullah(SAW)
here taught us, 
a great tip
which is
call your wife with the best names, she like to hear
did rasulullah(SAW) practice this, yes. he used to call our mother Ayesha
ya-aysh, may Allah be pleased with her. ya aysh, so there’s nothing wrong with you
calling your wife sweet pie, 
honey bun
sweetie,
you know, call her with any name she likes
call her with the name that she loves to hear
that particular
practice will go direct to the heart, it is one of the ways to keep her love
guaranteed
13
sometimes, you know, a pleasant surprise
that pleasant surprise also the thing could be your stomach but it can also be your heart
there are so many ways 
to do the pleasant surprise
maybe she loves,
for example
water melon
and suddenly you’re bringing her a water melon
which isn’t even the season of water melon and somehow,
you bring her water melon
its not going to the stomach, it is going to the heart. it is called a pleasant surprise
pick and choose. be an artist of surprising her in a  pleasant way
no.14, this is serious matter 
preserving the tongue
some brothers, some sisters
may say something
and it take years, to white out or wipe out
rasulullah(SAW) taught us that the collection of people’s tongue, will
throw them right on their face in the hell fire wal ayad u billah
preserving the tongue, it is seriously an important
matter
15
means all of us
have shortcoming
for us to look only in her shortcoming and think that we are perfect
it’s a really serious problem.
so expect her short coming and accept her short coming and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
will put barakah in your life
and you will have
you will keep as well her love
15
you find some brothers, really they love their wives
really they appreciate them, really they love what they’ve done today or the food they cooked, or the way how they dressed
but they don’t say it, they just
love it, and they appreciate that, they keep it in their heart
take it
from your heart
or from the tongue of your heart
put it in the tongue of your mouth
deliver it
show her 
tell her that you appreciate her
tell her that you liked that particular meal she made. tell her
Allah showed us to live with them
and to deal with them in a god way, in a kind way, so show that appreciation
17
to keep the love of your wife, encourage her
to be in touch with her kin relation 
and to be kind to her mom and dad
and to be in touch with her mom and dad
that brings her life blessings
that brings her life mercy from Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
in return that blessing and mercy
is your love 
and it is your mercy and it is your comfort
no. 18
speak
of the topic of her interest
choose the topic of her interest. You know sometimes you are
ten hours outside home, twelve hours outside home and that one hour
two hours, three hours you spend with her
some of us will carry a conversation
where really
she has no interest in that
he’ll come and tell her, you know, today in my training, 
I got somebody kicked in the stomach and he vomited at me and all these, you know
No, that’s something she’s not interested in.
Pick a topic of her interest
It will keep the love
It will increase the love
It preserves the love
19
What is 19
And this is seriously important matter that
Right before her
Relatives, right in front of her relatives, that you show that she is wonderful
That you really mention that she’s wonderful
That you admit and you accept and you realize and you confirm
That she is wonderful
Show that to her relative
Speak out
That she’s a good person
That can preserve the love
20
rasulullah(SAW) gave us also major tips
because what I’m telling you my brothers, my sisters is from the Quran and the sunnah
rasulullah(SAW) in this particular point no. 20
means give each other, gifts
you will love each other
you know that $5 gift, $50 gift, $500, whatever,
that gift, it goes a long way 
and this is confirmed by rasulullah(SAW), that when you give her
gift
she will love you, and that will increase the love 
and that will polish the love
and you could try that anytime
it works
when is the last time
you bought your wife a gift?
My brothers, my sisters, it doesn’t mean
That she’s my wife, I have to wait for an occasion
No
There’s an everyday
A reason, why you have to give her a gift
Take an example,
Suppose
You come to my home
While you’re drinking your coffee,
You pour it in your clothes
You dropped the coffee in your clothes
I come,
Take your clothes personally,
Wash your clothes, 
Dry your clothes
Iron your clothes,
What would happen?
I’m sure, for the rest of your life
You will not forget this story, you will not forget what I’ve done for you
What about your wife, who’s doing daily
Much more than that
Whether she’s working at home, a full time mom
Whether she’s working outside home, again, full time mom
21
And that means
Getting rid of the rust
Getting rid of the routine
Surprise her, 
Make a change
You know she is day in day out,
Living in a certain routine,
Get rid of this routine once in a while, 
Scrub the rust, what does that mean?
You know for example, you could buy
A package 
And surprise her, you know
For the next two days, or for the next day
You’re staying at the niagra falls. There’s a nice hotel, there’s nice meal
You know, that small action
It will get rid of the regular rust
The regular routine
It will increase the love,
Polishes the love
One of the ways, in these 60 ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
22
Actually Islamically
We are requested
And not only requested
We are
We have the demand upon us
From Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
That we have to think good
Now thinking good of each other
That applies to the wife 
As well
Thinking good of your wife will protect the love
Increase the love
One of the ways, in this particular advice today to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
You know when I go through these, in point forms,
But in reality you’re saying where’s second
Maybe I’ve shortened this point,
Maybe I never really practiced this point, you pick and choose my brothers
Means have the manners
Of pretending you did not hear that word from your wife
Pretend you did not see certain things by your wife
Off course I’m not saying something huge an big because if she’s done something terrible
You don’t want to help her shaitaan against her
You wanna help her against her shaitaan, but that little things she done,
You did not like, pretend you don’t see it
Means that little word
Something she said, you did not like, you know, pretend you did not hear
That particular manners,
Or that particular practice, it was a practice of imam Ali(RA)
This way you’re like,
Putting a hole in your memory.
Just pretend you did not hear that
Just get rid of it, don’t save it in your memory
23 is khuluqutakneesh
24
And that is
A point where
Definitely, we need to practice sometimes daily.
You have to add a drop of patience
A drop of patience
A brother told me
That if he really can go back
In his life
And just add a drop of patience in things that he faced
He wouldn’t be suffering 
The consequences of such a thing
That he lived or suffered
He said I needed really just a drop of patience
And speaking of the point no. 24
Increase the drops of patience
At the time
Where she’s pregnant or the time of her 
Monthly period,
You need to increase
Sometimes, just one drop of patience,
It can go a long way
Now
We move to point 25
Expect her jealousy
Respect her jealousy
Expect and respect
You know, natural
Our mothers, may Allah be pleased with them,
Some times they get jealous
rasulullah(SAW)
got a gift,
which is food
delivered from the
from the believers
the sisters, 
the sahabiat
the servant coming down 
to rasulullah(SAW) with the food
and our mother Ayesha standing next to rasulullah(SAW), 
she got jealous
she tipped the hand
she tipped the hand of the servant
that food fall on the floor
take a look at the wisdom of rasulullah(SAW)
he went down,
picking up the food
giving everyone and said
eat, your mother get jealous
it’s over
so expect and respect her jealousy, it protects your love
26
Means
Be humble
You’re really
Raise in her heart
Maybe you’re an engineer,
Maybe you’re a doctor
She doesn’t have a university degree but remember
That she’s taking care of you
And taking care of your heart which is your children, 
Because your children, it is your heart waling on earth
So, she is really
If you’re a doctor, she’s much more than a doctor
She is the leader at home, what I mean by that word
She is really the person
That her strength
Is your strength
And her
Really
Her success is your success
So no matter how successful you are
We can’t be high and look at her down
No, be humble
You’ll raise in her heart
27
And this is something, a lot of brothers, they do practice that
They want to make their
Friends happy, but in return
They make their home  miserable
You know, take an example, somebody could wake up his wife at one,o’clock
In the night, you know, we just came here to watch tv, 
Get up, make some dinner for us
Come ‘on, she wants to take care of the children school
And this way you’re making your friends happy, 
But the price is very high
Which is,
You are putting the price, 
Your happiness
Is the price. You’re sacrificing your happiness.
28
rasulullah(SAW)
Used to help at home
I’m the best among you is what rasulullah(SAW) said
I am the best among you
Indeed he was the best of Allah’s creation
I’m the best among you and I’m the best to my wife
So he even used to sew his own clothes rasulullah(SAW) and to help
29
This is 
Where recently
A brother
Was to force his wife
To love his mom
Can’t force loving anyone
You know
Help her
Respect your mom and dad
And gradually,
The love will come
The love could come instantly but you can’t force the love unless assure
My brothers, my sisters
You love your mom and dad, great
And they are the best,
One of the best business to do with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala’s to please your mom and dad
But you can’t force your wife to love your mom and dad
Help her to respect mom and dad
And gradually to love them, the love’s in the heart and only Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
Has control of this heart. You can’t force her
To love your mom and dad
Which is
Help her
To be kind to your mom and dad
Point no. 30
Which is
When you show your wife
That you are
You are the ideal wife
Just by her thinking that way, you’re not telling a lie
She is, in many ways ideal
Each and every wife is an ideal, no matter how good
Or great she is
Or half great she is, she’s an ideal in many ways
And make her feel that way that she’s an ideal wife
You know, that will help and will protect the love
Will increase the love
My brothers, my sisters
Point no. 31
To remember your wife with the dua’a
Wallahe this the matter, that will protect the love
It will really guaranteed
Help to increase the love
Not just protected as stays as is
Especially if she knows that you really
Choose great timing and  great places to make  dua’a  to   pray  for  her      
It protects the love
Which is point no. 32
Leave the past to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
You are not Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
You are not in charge of her past. I have counseled a family
Who really suffered a terrible fight
Then they settle down, then they have fights, a terrible fight again,
They settle, what happen?
The husband happened
To dig something
His wife did,
Ten years ago
Some type of negative energy
That spills in their life
Each time he remembers that
It really leads them to a big fight
And sometimes a divorce
Why?
Because that matter 
Was not his business
You are not Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala. The past
The past for Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala, we don’t dig in the past
It brings you
It may bring you misery
My brothers, my sisters
60 ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
Take these
And ask Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
To help each and everyone of us to practice these, 
because if you’re not happy at home, I assure you’re not gonna be happy anywhere else
that’s why sakeena, sakeena at home. Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala showed us
that the tranquility, it’s with the husband and wife
it is at home
the sakeena, the love and comfort and security
it is at home
point no. 33
what does that mean?
Don’t try to show her that you’re doing her a favour to bring food at home
Or to bring certain things at home
Don’t show that you’re doing them a favour and you know
I’m doing this and I’m doing that
Why? Because in reality, me and you
We are only the carriers
We carry the rizq
We are not the providers, we carry the…..whatever Allah provide your family
You are not the provider, Allah is the provider,
You are the courier. 
If you think that way, it protects the love, to avoid
Showing that I’m doing you a favour, it protects the love, not only that
That’s one of the way that you are praising Allah, I’m only a courier
I’m only a courier to the family
And it is a way also of being humble, Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 
Will raise you in her heart and will protect the love
Guaranteed
 43….
Or 34
Point 34
Satin is your enemy
Your wife is not your enemy
Rest assure, 
Satin is the enemy
And this is here where you’d realize that sometimes people, 
Husband and wife, they’re talking somehow
A fight breaks
Why? Because you are one, your wife is two, the shaitaan is no.3
Take the shaitaan as an enemy. Most of us
Will know
That if I ask you, do you like the shaitaan, no, I don’t like the shaitaan
That’s not enough to hate the shaitaan
We have to take the shaitaan as an enemy. Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala decalred
That we have, that the shaitaan is our enemy
Consider him, deal him, beware of him
As an enemy
So your wife is not the enemy
The shaitaan loves
Loves divorce
Loves to separate between a husband and a wife
Will come
Everyday
And set his
Lets suppose an office
Will ask the shayateen, the devils,
What have you done?
Some would say, I had made this person steal
Okay take this. What had you done?
I had made this person do so and so
Okay take this. What had you done?
I had made this person do so and so
Okay take this. What had you done?
One of the devils would say
I have made this man
Divorce his wife
The shaitaan will call him
And would say, you
Come here
And will get crowned,
Will put a crown on him
So therefore, rest assure, 
Your wife is not your enemy
The shaitaan is an enemy
Take him as an enemy,
Deal with him as an enemy
Rest assure that sometimes when you talk to your wife,
He’s the one who tries to throw words in your mouth to fire at her
Or words in her mouth to fire at you
Beware of the shaitaan
35
rasulullah(SAW) taught us that when you take food
and you put it into 
her mouth, into your wife’s mouth.
This 
Is a blessing
You’ll get blessing, you’ll get rewarded
Not only that
It’s not going to the stomach, 
It’s going to the heart
It increases the love, it increases the mercy
One of the ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
36
Some of us will consider his wife like
A precious pearl which is a nice way to think of it and to look at it
As she’s a precious pearl
One of the most precious pearl. You tell my wife is my princess
She’s my precious pearl
You know the precious pearl
You don’t leave it hanging
Just on the floor or just lying on the floor
You know the precious pearl,
You don’t leave it for someone to touch or abuse, no
The most precious pearl on earth
When you ask someone and say which one is more precious, your wife
Or the most precious pearl on earth. He would say
My wife
So therefore protect your wife, protect this precious pearl from the envy
Of the shayateen
The devils of the human type
Or the devils of the genie type
Protect her from that kind of envy
And speaking of the pearls, now we go to point 
37
Show her your pearls. What does that mean?
Show her your smile
Show her your smile.
Some of us, outside home,
He will smile for everyone
Anyone in the street he will smile for them 
Even a raccoon walking in the street. He will smile for the raccoon
But when he comes to home	
The mouth is out of service. There is no smile
The face is so rigid like a hard bread
If he smile he thinks that’s gonna crack. No
Smile for your wife
It is a sadakah
Your smile, it is like giving a charity
And it brings a beautiful positive energy
Into her heart. 
It protects the love
It increases the love
38
That sometimes
Small spark
You leave somewhere,
Come later on
You’ll find the whole building on fire
Small stones
Or small ……just adding up, adding up, adding up will 
It will cause a big mountain or a big wall
To be between you and your wife
This little problem that you, or little challenge that you really did not
Take care of
It becomes a problem and that little challenge
That you really ignored or you repeated that little
Things that she didn’t like
You repeated that, it becomes a problem
And these little things,
They’ll add up and you so suddenly find that there is
Wall between you and her
Don’t ignore these little matters. Deal with them
Sometimes they could be a small challenges……
ignoring them could become a serious big problem
39
rasulullah(SAW)
means avoid being harsh hearted and just moody
rasulullah(SAW), Allah glorified him
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala honoured him
By saying
If you were hard, harsh hearted, 
They would have break away from you
Means the companions would leave you and that’s a confirmation that rasulullah(SAW)
Was not hard, harsh hearted
So if you happen to be one of those people, their chest is so tight
And you’re so moody
Get rid of it, it protects your love
One of the ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
40
Respect her thinking
Because her thinking, it is a strength for you
And show that you respect her thinking, show you appreciate her thinking
Really
Sometimes you’re listening to her the way how she’s thinking or the way how she suggested something
Show that you really like that suggestion
Show that you really appreciating that particular thought, respecting her thought
It keeps the love
41
Help her to dig in her heart
Help her to dig within
To discover more skills
Because her success is your success
Help her to dig and find
Success within
That will keep the love,
It will protect the love
42 my brothers, my sisters
Now this is a serious matter
Which is
Respecting the intimate relationship
And the boundaries of it
And you could go on a long 
Conversation at this point by itself
rasulullah(SAW) for example showed us that you know
she’s a fragile
so that particular whistle
she gotta be handled carefully
the
the relationship
the intimate relationship has boundaries and has limitations 
sometimes maybe she’s not feeling well. She is sick
you gotta respect that feeling. You gotta respect and appreciate that she is not
in a mood to be ready for your desire
respect that particular
feeling
it protects the love
respect the boundaries that how can I 
enjoy with my wife
through the ways that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
permitted for you
which is through the way that she delivers the baby,
which is called the vagina 
so respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship
respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship
to stay all the time in the halal boundaries
that will protect he love
it protects the relationship, 
it protects the marriage
one of the 60 ways to keep the love of your wife
guaranteed
43
Means our children, they are
Really our heart
Walking on earth
Help her
To take care of your heart
You know
You’ll find some brothers who think to help with the children
I’m a less of a man if I help with the children. No 
You are a bigger man
You are more respected
You are even more in the sight of Allah, and rasulullah(SAW) 
When you help her with your children
One way to keep the love guaranteed
44
The gifts of the tongue
Some of us
Will think that to say something nice to your wife
Means you know I’m mushy, 
I’m just giving her sweet talk. No. this is the gift of the tongue
Tell her that you know, you look great today mashAllah, 
You’re so bright
There’s something about you today mashAllah
If she’s just the way , the way I get married today, give her the gifts of the tongue
Be an artist
Pick and choose what you’re gonna say to her
You know, 
It is not 
Being hypocrite. No. this is the
Gifts of the tongues
45
Some wives would say you know
My husband,
I rarely sit down and eat with him
My husband really doesn’t know how my food tastes. He’s always on the go
He’s always busy
Don’t be strange to sit down and to eat with her
Don’t be strange to put the particular food in her mouth where previously I mentioned
For these people
Just to sit down
I happen to actually counsel a family
Where the wife really,
Like crave
Crave for her husband to sit down and have a meal with her
That protects the love, increases the love
And my brothers, my sisters, all these points that I’m mentioning
I’m not inventing
Thoughts
I’m not inventing a rocket
These are just a reminder
It really help each and everyone of us
That really you could give that cd
To someone who’s just getting married
Or was to get married or already
Rest assure that anyone will benefit from these points because they are from the Quraan
And the sunnah
I benefit, you benefit
Everyone benefit
inshAllah, may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala put barakah in this effort
46
Let her know that you’re traveling
Don’t surprise her
Not only that
Let her know that you’re coming
What day, what time
It is against Islam that you just surprise her and knock the door on her
It is against Islam
So let her know, when you’re leaving
Let her know when you’re coming
Don’t surprise her
47
Some of us would start carrying
A particular debate or let’s say
Half argument which is preferably always tough to avoid arguing
But as soon as there’s some type of a conversation
That could lead to arguments 
or could lead to a bit of challenge
He will light away the fuel like a magnet
Pulling him out of home
Don’t
Don’t co operate with this magnet
As soon you’re leaving home
In certain situations
It might be just that for you to leave five minutes
Might be healthy
But for some of us
Who’ll just as soon something happen, he’ll just leave home
Quit this
It will protect your love
It will really enhance your love
One of the 60 ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed
My brothers, my sisters
Point no. 48
That
The home
Has secrecy and privacy
Once you take this privacy to the public
And the secrecy of your wife and privacy to your best friend or two three friends
You’re really
Putting
A serious, dangerous
Hole into your marriage 
And into your love relation
These 
Secrets stays home
These privacy stays home
And Islam is against taking these privacy 
And secrecy
And just leave it in a garage sale 
For anyone to come, pick and choose
We go to 49
And this is really beautiful
That you encourage each other, with the ibadaat
With worshipping Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
Not increases the love
You know
You plan a trip for hajj
Or umrah together
That really increases the love,
Really enhance the love
It makes the love so genuine
To help each other
To worship Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
And to share these ibadaat
Let’s go for umrah
Let’s go to the masjid and listen to this particular kari
Or this particular speaker
This particular daras
Listen, help each other with the ibaadaat,
Lets go and make tahajud today
My brothers, my sisters
It protects the love,
It enhances the love
Point no. 50
That to know that to her rights, 
Not only written on a piece of paper
No
But they’re really fighting now a days saying shariah and shariah
No her rights not only written on a piece of paper
That is engraved in your heart
It is engraved in your conscious
Really
We don’t need anyone
To
Engrave them in our hearts. We have to really engrave them ourselves
Her rights upon you, engraved in your heart,
Engraved in your conscious
51 
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared that in the Quran
You know, live with them with kindness
Be the best
For your wife
Treat them with kindness
With goodness
That will go a long way
And that means
In the happy times, or in the sad times, you treat her with kindness,
With fairness
In the time of prosperity 
You’re treating her with kindness
With goodness
With fairness
May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala help us all to practice these points, my brothers
May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala help us to  …….them with sincereity
And to enjoy the delicious taste of practicing
These points and  you could add to these points
When I say 60 ways to keep the love of your wife
Guaranteed, you could add
51,
52
rasulullah(SAW) showed us
that 
there’s a message………….
the messenger,
at the time of intimate relationship,
it is the kiss
and we have to understand that a man can’t just jump on his wife 
like a bull.
No 
You know there’s a messenger here, rasulullah(SAW) taught us,
Which is 
The kiss is the messenger
It keeps the love, 
It really polishes the love
53
Some of us
When we have a problem,
Dispute,
Small problem,
With our loved one, you know
You’ll go and share it with everyone
No
You know when you’re wounded
You don’t leave your wound for the germs
You don’t
Because that will be dangerous for your wound
And when you have dispute with your wife, it’s not available this for anyone
Because that will dirty the situation and will be so dangerous
Yes, you may find one brother that you trust so much
Not only trust his love
You gotta trust his wisdom
You gotta trust his knowledge of Islam,
Because he could really love you,
But maybe
He’s the worst person to advice you
Maybe he could love you but he has no knowledge of Islam to advice you properly
So this way it’s like
Leaving your  wound open for the gems
We have to be careful, my brothers, my sisters 
And now we move to 
54
To know that the health
The good health of your wife
It is your health
It is your good health
To really show her that you care
For her health
Really
You are engraving in her heart
Your love
To care for her health
That really
In return, it will strengthen your health
In return, you’re really caring for your own health
Showing her that
Will keep the love
Protect the love
Increases the love
55
Some brothers will think that
I am right all the time
Right, I’m always right, no mater what, I’m always right
They could never accept that wait a second, my brother, no mater how good you are
You are not perfect. No matter how good you are
You have short coming. No matter how good you are, you could never be always right
Get rid of this
Sickness
Those people who’d think that I’m always right, may Allah help you
May Allah cure you
You are not always right
The one who’s always right is rasulullah(SAW)
You are not always right
Get rid of this disease
It protects your love
It increases your love
56
Your happiness,
Your sadness
Share that with her
57
Have mercy on her weakness
Have mercy 
on her weakness
Have mercy on her when she’s weak or when she’s strong
Have mercy on her because she is
The fragile whistle
She is the one
That really
Take care of your loved ones
Your children
And she is the one entrust in your hand
This is what rasulullah(SAW) showed us
That this wife is a trust in your hand
58
You are the
Comfortable chest
For her
You are
The one who’d say, lean on me
In the difficult time
Lean on me on the sad time 
Lean on me when you need a chest to lean on
Be that chest for her. Rest assure
She lean on your chest
But she will love your heart and you will protect the love
You’ll protect
Her love and you’ll protect your marriage
To be that
Comfortable
And soft
And tender
Type of a person that she could lean on
59
Accept her as is
This is what rasulullah(SAW) showed us
That she’s like
She’s created from the rib, and if we see the rib
The rib is not straight
The rib is going this way
It’s not straight, you know, accept her
Trying to straighten her, you’ll break the rib
And that means divorce
Accept her as is
Accept her weakness, you will love her
She would love you
You would protect the love and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
rasulullah(SAW) showed us that you may
dislike one habit or one manner of her but you’ll love another manner
accept her as is. Finally I would say
my brothers, my sisters, no. 60
means having the good intention for your wife at all times. It goes a long way
because that intention Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala monitors your intention
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala monitors your heart
Have good neeah, have a good intention for your wife
We go back to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala who say
from His signs that He created for you, from you
Maids, that means wives so you may dwell in tranquility
And Allah caused among you, love and mercy
May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala fill our homes with tranquility
Love and mercy
remember a listener can be much better than a speaker 
please remember me in your dua
“jazakumullah khair. Assalam u alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”