1 00:00:01,318 --> 00:00:04,468 “Bismillah ar Rehman ar Raheem, alhumdullilah he Rab il Alamin, 2 00:00:05,495 --> 00:00:07,645 Al Rehman ar Raheem, noor al samaat ul arz, 3 00:00:13,344 --> 00:00:15,244 My brothers, my sisters, dear belivers 4 00:00:15,717 --> 00:00:18,217 the best greetings of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala to 5 00:00:18,716 --> 00:00:19,916 all of you 6 00:00:20,535 --> 00:00:24,435 and upon all the bright faces that makes “sajood” to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 7 00:00:25,036 --> 00:00:28,986 to all the sincere hearts that finds comfort, happiness, satisfaction, content, 8 00:00:29,553 --> 00:00:31,853 trust, success with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala. 9 00:00:32,380 --> 00:00:33,980 Today’s topic, today’s reminder, 10 00:00:34,973 --> 00:00:36,823 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 11 00:00:37,590 --> 00:00:38,790 Guaranteed 12 00:00:39,511 --> 00:00:41,561 It is really an extremely important issue 13 00:00:42,898 --> 00:00:43,798 Important reminder 14 00:00:44,920 --> 00:00:46,270 For each and everyone of us 15 00:00:46,875 --> 00:00:48,675 It doesn’t mean 16 00:00:49,054 --> 00:00:50,454 You have to apply all the 60 17 00:00:50,932 --> 00:00:53,332 Ways, or you must apply the 60 ways to keep your 18 00:00:54,580 --> 00:00:55,780 Wife happy 19 00:00:56,418 --> 00:00:56,918 No 20 00:00:57,773 --> 00:00:59,453 But sometimes, 21 00:00:59,808 --> 00:01:00,648 You are 22 00:01:01,028 --> 00:01:03,228 Not paying attention to one of these 60 ways 23 00:01:03,639 --> 00:01:05,319 That is really 24 00:01:05,563 --> 00:01:07,313 Putting a hole in your relationship 25 00:01:07,690 --> 00:01:09,040 Putting a hole in your boat 26 00:01:09,971 --> 00:01:11,221 The boat of your marriage 27 00:01:11,623 --> 00:01:12,673 The boat of your life 28 00:01:13,397 --> 00:01:14,837 So basically 29 00:01:15,298 --> 00:01:17,098 Some of us could apply these 60 ways 30 00:01:17,533 --> 00:01:18,733 Some of us 31 00:01:19,124 --> 00:01:20,324 Could apply half of them 32 00:01:20,787 --> 00:01:22,037 But really you want to be 33 00:01:22,487 --> 00:01:23,687 A champion 34 00:01:24,071 --> 00:01:25,871 The art of love 35 00:01:26,239 --> 00:01:27,039 The art of great 36 00:01:27,710 --> 00:01:29,810 Dealing, in a husband to wife relationship 37 00:01:31,224 --> 00:01:35,324 Take a look at these 60 ways and you will really find that each and everyone of us 38 00:01:37,688 --> 00:01:41,038 needs them and why I start to chose the sisters, with the wife, 39 00:01:41,578 --> 00:01:42,378 Because they say 40 00:01:43,194 --> 00:01:45,244 when the husband is happy at home, that means 41 00:01:46,432 --> 00:01:47,382 one person is happy 42 00:01:49,009 --> 00:01:50,759 but when the wife is happy at home, 43 00:01:51,442 --> 00:01:53,292 that means the whole family is happy. 44 00:01:54,151 --> 00:01:55,751 And inshAllah in the near future 45 00:01:56,398 --> 00:01:58,898 We will with the help of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala will produce 46 00:01:59,345 --> 00:02:00,430 60 ways to keep the love of your husband guaranteed 47 00:02:04,639 --> 00:02:05,639 Speaking of the wife 48 00:02:06,602 --> 00:02:08,952 Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared in the Quran 49 00:02:19,675 --> 00:02:22,475 Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declaring that “from His signs 50 00:02:22,993 --> 00:02:24,193 That He created for you, 51 00:02:25,422 --> 00:02:27,022 from you, maids, means wives and 52 00:02:32,669 --> 00:02:34,819 what for? so you may dwell in tranquility” 53 00:02:37,357 --> 00:02:39,657 and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala caused among you 54 00:02:42,059 --> 00:02:43,739 love and mercy 55 00:02:44,791 --> 00:02:46,291 so therefore, Muslim scholars, 56 00:02:47,131 --> 00:02:51,081 for this particular ayah, concluded that the greatest achievement of a marriage 57 00:02:51,942 --> 00:02:53,242 it is tranquility, sakeena 58 00:02:54,479 --> 00:02:55,579 if you have no sakeena 59 00:02:56,222 --> 00:02:58,422 if you have no tranquility in your marriage, 60 00:02:59,281 --> 00:03:00,281 you have no marriage 61 00:03:00,946 --> 00:03:02,346 you have sikina, not sakeena 62 00:03:03,267 --> 00:03:04,167 sikina is a knife, 63 00:03:05,231 --> 00:03:07,531 sakeena mean tranquility, love, peace, comfort 64 00:03:09,661 --> 00:03:11,061 I will exhibit these 60 ways 65 00:03:12,857 --> 00:03:15,907 with the help of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala explaining briefly 66 00:03:16,564 --> 00:03:17,414 what does it mean 67 00:03:18,734 --> 00:03:20,484 this particular point or that point 68 00:03:21,715 --> 00:03:24,865 and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala will help each and everyone of us 69 00:03:25,286 --> 00:03:26,486 to take, pick and choose 70 00:03:26,902 --> 00:03:30,099 some of us would like to practice all the 60, some of us would say 71 00:03:30,574 --> 00:03:33,247 you know what? I’m a champion already in all these 60 points 72 00:03:33,666 --> 00:03:35,116 but this is a reminder for me 73 00:03:35,976 --> 00:03:38,526 take a look at this where Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 74 00:03:39,098 --> 00:03:40,178 showed us 75 00:03:40,608 --> 00:03:41,608 that 76 00:03:41,972 --> 00:03:43,172 your wife, it is a trust 77 00:03:43,766 --> 00:03:45,066 she’s a trust in your hand 78 00:03:45,587 --> 00:03:48,187 and rasulullah(SAW) particularly declared that, that 79 00:03:49,073 --> 00:03:51,423 this wife is a trust in your hand, so let us go 80 00:03:52,879 --> 00:03:53,959 one point 81 00:03:54,402 --> 00:03:55,502 after the second point 82 00:03:56,994 --> 00:04:01,094 60 ways to keep the love of your wife guaranteed, we’ll start with the first point 83 00:04:01,517 --> 00:04:02,477 Which is 84 00:04:02,935 --> 00:04:03,935 Make her feel secure 85 00:04:07,427 --> 00:04:08,427 Make her feel secure 86 00:04:10,400 --> 00:04:11,750 Make her feel that sakeena, 87 00:04:12,165 --> 00:04:13,015 That tranquility. 88 00:04:14,145 --> 00:04:15,545 Quit the gum of the shaitaan 89 00:04:17,562 --> 00:04:22,262 Quit the gum that you would get from the super market of Iblees the shaitaan, naooz-billah man 90 00:04:23,096 --> 00:04:26,646 And that gum called, I will divorce you, I’m gonna kick you out of home 91 00:04:27,975 --> 00:04:29,325 I’m going to get rid of you 92 00:04:30,124 --> 00:04:31,684 Quit that gum 93 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:33,090 That could put a hole 94 00:04:33,452 --> 00:04:34,252 In your marriage 95 00:04:34,779 --> 00:04:36,179 Second point Assalamualaikum 96 00:04:37,131 --> 00:04:37,931 When you go home 97 00:04:38,608 --> 00:04:40,508 You say Assalamualaikum wa rehmatullah 98 00:04:42,050 --> 00:04:45,100 This particular great positive energy and this great greeting 99 00:04:47,901 --> 00:04:51,651 That rasulullah(SAW) taught us. It will kick the shaitaan out of your home. 100 00:04:52,714 --> 00:04:53,794 A brother 101 00:04:54,226 --> 00:04:56,976 Said I came home and suddenly I get so angry at my wife 102 00:04:58,856 --> 00:05:00,176 But really, 103 00:05:00,809 --> 00:05:03,509 She was wise. she just took off and went to other room 104 00:05:04,925 --> 00:05:07,825 I said uh-oh, I didn’t pay attention when I came home 105 00:05:09,320 --> 00:05:11,620 I didn’t say Assalamualaikum. He said wallahe, 106 00:05:12,895 --> 00:05:14,995 I left home, I went outside for few seconds, 107 00:05:16,858 --> 00:05:20,008 And I came back home and I said Assalamualaikum wa rehmatullah, 108 00:05:20,564 --> 00:05:23,064 Nobody could hear me but the evening ended in love 109 00:05:24,657 --> 00:05:25,737 And jokes 110 00:05:26,358 --> 00:05:27,558 That’s why 111 00:05:27,948 --> 00:05:29,148 That particular greeting 112 00:05:29,576 --> 00:05:32,776 It will kick the shaitaan out of your home, out of your marriage 113 00:05:33,309 --> 00:05:34,629 Point no. 3 114 00:05:38,611 --> 00:05:41,511 rasulullah(SAW) urged us and described that your wife is a 115 00:05:42,799 --> 00:05:44,599 fragile whistle 116 00:05:45,411 --> 00:05:47,061 take care of this fragile whistle 117 00:05:52,320 --> 00:05:53,760 and remember 118 00:05:55,402 --> 00:05:56,402 I’m adding that part 119 00:05:58,225 --> 00:06:03,275 That means, in this particular whistle, I’m not adding by the way this part to hadith rasulullah(SAW) 120 00:06:04,826 --> 00:06:07,476 No innovation, no touching of hadith rasulullah(SAW). 121 00:06:08,283 --> 00:06:09,233 But what I’m saying that 122 00:06:10,582 --> 00:06:11,882 in this particular whistle 123 00:06:12,988 --> 00:06:16,188 there’s goodness, there’s a lot of goodness, and rasulullah(SAW) 124 00:06:16,667 --> 00:06:18,717 asked us to treat this particular whistle 125 00:06:20,583 --> 00:06:22,383 in a gentle way 126 00:06:23,952 --> 00:06:24,952 what does that mean? 127 00:06:25,856 --> 00:06:27,176 point no. 4 128 00:06:27,592 --> 00:06:28,792 that means 129 00:06:29,135 --> 00:06:30,485 when you want to advice her 130 00:06:30,992 --> 00:06:32,592 this is one way to keep her love 131 00:06:33,345 --> 00:06:34,695 when you want to advice her 132 00:06:35,447 --> 00:06:36,497 advice her in privacy 133 00:06:37,915 --> 00:06:39,115 advice her 134 00:06:40,899 --> 00:06:41,949 at the best time that 135 00:06:42,623 --> 00:06:43,583 there is 136 00:06:44,586 --> 00:06:46,026 some kind of 137 00:06:46,679 --> 00:06:48,479 love atmosphere 138 00:06:48,927 --> 00:06:50,527 some kind of romantic atmosphere 139 00:06:51,040 --> 00:06:52,640 some kind of peaceful atmosphere 140 00:06:54,060 --> 00:06:55,560 don’t advice her in the public 141 00:07:06,367 --> 00:07:07,267 intend advising me 142 00:07:07,795 --> 00:07:09,235 in a privacy 143 00:07:09,635 --> 00:07:11,185 avoid advising me in the public 144 00:07:12,589 --> 00:07:14,689 advice in the public is type of slandering 145 00:07:15,507 --> 00:07:16,657 I don’t accept, I don’t 146 00:07:17,331 --> 00:07:18,411 listen to 147 00:07:18,807 --> 00:07:20,107 this is what the poet said 148 00:07:20,539 --> 00:07:23,139 so sometimes to administrate and to inject that nice 149 00:07:24,383 --> 00:07:25,183 request you have 150 00:07:25,686 --> 00:07:26,766 or advice 151 00:07:27,456 --> 00:07:31,106 it, choose the best time, choose the time when the mood is good and happy 152 00:07:31,850 --> 00:07:32,850 you’ll keep her love 153 00:07:34,174 --> 00:07:35,374 point no.5 154 00:07:36,859 --> 00:07:38,309 being generous with your wife 155 00:07:39,384 --> 00:07:40,534 being generous with her 156 00:07:41,470 --> 00:07:42,270 it shows us that 157 00:07:42,963 --> 00:07:43,803 you are 158 00:07:44,413 --> 00:07:45,413 kind 159 00:07:45,948 --> 00:07:48,798 and your status with Allah is god because your generosity 160 00:07:50,179 --> 00:07:53,479 to your wife is a direct business with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 161 00:07:54,630 --> 00:07:56,430 and it is direct credit to her heart 162 00:07:57,326 --> 00:07:59,726 to be generous with your wife, it keeps her love 163 00:08:00,850 --> 00:08:02,050 point no.6 164 00:08:03,696 --> 00:08:04,596 what does it mean? 165 00:08:06,029 --> 00:08:08,479 when your wife is coming and you are sitting down 166 00:08:08,881 --> 00:08:09,831 you say, here honey 167 00:08:10,276 --> 00:08:11,236 you move 168 00:08:11,635 --> 00:08:12,935 you say, here, have a seat 169 00:08:13,401 --> 00:08:14,651 I warmed the seat for you 170 00:08:15,201 --> 00:08:16,551 you warmed the seat for her 171 00:08:16,967 --> 00:08:18,517 she will warm her heart for you 172 00:08:19,798 --> 00:08:21,798 now when you move and you give her space 173 00:08:22,265 --> 00:08:25,315 have a seat. these particular points my brothers, my sisters 174 00:08:27,888 --> 00:08:30,938 they may sound simple but they can go a long way in the heart 175 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:34,280 and they can really make your life happy 176 00:08:34,964 --> 00:08:36,564 they can make a great difference 177 00:08:36,946 --> 00:08:38,396 my brothers, my sisters, no.7 178 00:08:40,407 --> 00:08:41,257 means avoid anger 179 00:08:43,854 --> 00:08:45,254 avoid anger. how? keep wadoo 180 00:08:46,461 --> 00:08:47,811 keep wadoo at all the times 181 00:08:49,446 --> 00:08:52,596 some of you, some of us may get angry rasulullah(SAW) showed us 182 00:08:54,022 --> 00:08:57,072 what we’re supposed to aware of you know you get angry, sit down 183 00:08:58,656 --> 00:09:00,506 that’s what rasulullah(SAW) taught us 184 00:09:01,226 --> 00:09:02,826 if you’re sitting down, lie down 185 00:09:03,511 --> 00:09:04,811 lie down even on the floor 186 00:09:05,607 --> 00:09:09,907 some of us will say, you know, if I lie down, she will come and kick me in the stomach 187 00:09:10,390 --> 00:09:10,890 no 188 00:09:11,340 --> 00:09:13,190 she would not kick you in the stomach 189 00:09:13,616 --> 00:09:15,916 you will kick the shaitaan out of your stomach 190 00:09:16,546 --> 00:09:17,866 avoid anger 191 00:09:19,755 --> 00:09:21,505 my brothers, my sisters, point no.8 192 00:09:25,358 --> 00:09:27,058 means looking good, smelling great 193 00:09:29,421 --> 00:09:31,521 look good for your wife, it keeps the love 194 00:09:32,001 --> 00:09:34,201 smell great for your wife, it keeps the love 195 00:09:35,040 --> 00:09:37,190 and Islamically by the way, you could spend 196 00:09:38,662 --> 00:09:42,612 a good amount of your wealth on perfume and smelling good, Islamically it’s okay 197 00:09:43,399 --> 00:09:45,549 Islamically really it’s desired and it’s preferred 198 00:09:46,263 --> 00:09:48,613 these important matters my brothers, my sisters 199 00:09:49,819 --> 00:09:51,119 can make a huge difference 200 00:09:51,978 --> 00:09:53,298 in our life 201 00:09:53,652 --> 00:09:55,212 it can really 202 00:09:55,599 --> 00:09:56,549 make us or break us 203 00:09:57,303 --> 00:09:58,553 no. 9 204 00:10:00,869 --> 00:10:01,869 what does that mean? 205 00:10:02,969 --> 00:10:04,649 don’t be rigid 206 00:10:04,984 --> 00:10:05,784 you’ll be broken 207 00:10:06,904 --> 00:10:10,704 some brothers will think, for me to be rigid, that means I’m a man, you know 208 00:10:12,391 --> 00:10:14,091 no, rasulullah(SAW) taught us that 209 00:10:17,658 --> 00:10:18,758 I’m the best among you 210 00:10:19,655 --> 00:10:20,755 and I’m the best to my 211 00:10:21,289 --> 00:10:22,289 wife 212 00:10:23,061 --> 00:10:25,561 this is what rasulullah(SAW) said. so being rigid, 213 00:10:26,675 --> 00:10:29,075 you don’t get close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 214 00:10:29,961 --> 00:10:33,411 being harsh hearted, you don’t get close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 215 00:10:34,635 --> 00:10:35,685 no. 10 husnal istimaa 216 00:10:38,061 --> 00:10:41,061 this is really important, that use this particular satellite 217 00:10:42,722 --> 00:10:43,522 but channel that 218 00:10:44,392 --> 00:10:45,832 to your wife 219 00:10:46,274 --> 00:10:47,124 because sometimes 220 00:10:49,578 --> 00:10:50,378 these particular 221 00:10:51,525 --> 00:10:53,675 people who complain about there husband and 222 00:10:54,222 --> 00:10:57,572 they come to the masjid they go and get some counseling you would find 223 00:10:59,280 --> 00:11:01,980 that really they don’t want you to solve their problem 224 00:11:02,523 --> 00:11:06,623 they don’t want the husband to solve their problem, they just want a good listener 225 00:11:07,201 --> 00:11:08,251 be that good listener 226 00:11:08,755 --> 00:11:10,435 husnal istimaa 227 00:11:10,878 --> 00:11:11,378 11 228 00:11:15,508 --> 00:11:17,068 it means, yes 229 00:11:17,630 --> 00:11:19,310 for flattering 230 00:11:19,615 --> 00:11:21,415 no, for arguing 231 00:11:21,990 --> 00:11:23,140 arguing it is a serious 232 00:11:24,993 --> 00:11:27,243 poison for the relationship, for the marriage 233 00:11:29,930 --> 00:11:32,030 al uza, may Allah be pleased with him said 234 00:11:37,740 --> 00:11:39,990 when Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala wants to cause 235 00:11:40,613 --> 00:11:42,053 people, evil 236 00:11:42,832 --> 00:11:45,732 Allah would leave them arguing, disputing among themselves 237 00:11:47,137 --> 00:11:48,887 therefore, my brothers, my sisters, 238 00:11:49,326 --> 00:11:50,276 yes, for flattering 239 00:11:51,624 --> 00:11:54,224 no, for arguing. it will keep the love of your wife. 240 00:11:56,071 --> 00:11:58,621 sixty ways to keep the love of your wife guaranteed 241 00:12:00,413 --> 00:12:02,213 now we go to 12 242 00:12:04,533 --> 00:12:06,333 rasulullah(SAW) 243 00:12:07,865 --> 00:12:09,665 here taught us, 244 00:12:10,064 --> 00:12:11,384 a great tip 245 00:12:11,814 --> 00:12:12,774 which is 246 00:12:14,430 --> 00:12:17,030 call your wife with the best names, she like to hear 247 00:12:19,438 --> 00:12:23,088 did rasulullah(SAW) practice this, yes. he used to call our mother Ayesha 248 00:12:25,423 --> 00:12:29,523 ya-aysh, may Allah be pleased with her. ya aysh, so there’s nothing wrong with you 249 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:31,760 calling your wife sweet pie, 250 00:12:32,306 --> 00:12:33,386 honey bun 251 00:12:34,162 --> 00:12:35,122 sweetie, 252 00:12:35,850 --> 00:12:37,950 you know, call her with any name she likes 253 00:12:39,570 --> 00:12:41,820 call her with the name that she loves to hear 254 00:12:42,730 --> 00:12:44,530 that particular 255 00:12:44,891 --> 00:12:48,691 practice will go direct to the heart, it is one of the ways to keep her love 256 00:12:50,064 --> 00:12:51,264 guaranteed 257 00:12:51,747 --> 00:12:52,247 13 258 00:12:57,928 --> 00:12:59,928 sometimes, you know, a pleasant surprise 259 00:13:01,237 --> 00:13:05,687 that pleasant surprise also the thing could be your stomach but it can also be your heart 260 00:13:06,521 --> 00:13:07,621 there are so many ways 261 00:13:08,621 --> 00:13:09,971 to do the pleasant surprise 262 00:13:10,418 --> 00:13:11,218 maybe she loves, 263 00:13:11,668 --> 00:13:12,988 for example 264 00:13:13,338 --> 00:13:14,658 water melon 265 00:13:15,047 --> 00:13:17,347 and suddenly you’re bringing her a water melon 266 00:13:17,958 --> 00:13:20,708 which isn’t even the season of water melon and somehow, 267 00:13:21,184 --> 00:13:22,434 you bring her water melon 268 00:13:22,901 --> 00:13:27,301 its not going to the stomach, it is going to the heart. it is called a pleasant surprise 269 00:13:27,766 --> 00:13:31,066 pick and choose. be an artist of surprising her in a pleasant way 270 00:13:32,091 --> 00:13:33,541 no.14, this is serious matter 271 00:13:35,736 --> 00:13:36,786 preserving the tongue 272 00:13:37,500 --> 00:13:38,850 some brothers, some sisters 273 00:13:40,631 --> 00:13:41,481 may say something 274 00:13:42,878 --> 00:13:45,028 and it take years, to white out or wipe out 275 00:13:47,685 --> 00:13:51,185 rasulullah(SAW) taught us that the collection of people’s tongue, will 276 00:13:52,729 --> 00:13:55,979 throw them right on their face in the hell fire wal ayad u billah 277 00:14:00,790 --> 00:14:03,340 preserving the tongue, it is seriously an important 278 00:14:03,790 --> 00:14:04,510 matter 279 00:14:05,034 --> 00:14:05,534 15 280 00:14:08,221 --> 00:14:10,021 means all of us 281 00:14:10,411 --> 00:14:11,211 have shortcoming 282 00:14:11,668 --> 00:14:15,068 for us to look only in her shortcoming and think that we are perfect 283 00:14:17,536 --> 00:14:19,036 it’s a really serious problem. 284 00:14:20,068 --> 00:14:24,268 so expect her short coming and accept her short coming and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 285 00:14:26,219 --> 00:14:27,669 will put barakah in your life 286 00:14:29,013 --> 00:14:29,863 and you will have 287 00:14:30,421 --> 00:14:31,921 you will keep as well her love 288 00:14:32,838 --> 00:14:33,338 16 289 00:14:38,610 --> 00:14:41,210 you find some brothers, really they love their wives 290 00:14:42,322 --> 00:14:48,422 really they appreciate them, really they love what they’ve done today or the food they cooked, or the way how they dressed 291 00:14:49,124 --> 00:14:50,724 but they don’t say it, they just 292 00:14:51,553 --> 00:14:54,653 love it, and they appreciate that, they keep it in their heart 293 00:14:55,285 --> 00:14:56,125 take it 294 00:14:56,526 --> 00:14:58,326 from your heart 295 00:14:58,782 --> 00:15:00,382 or from the tongue of your heart 296 00:15:00,853 --> 00:15:02,553 put it in the tongue of your mouth 297 00:15:03,227 --> 00:15:04,427 deliver it 298 00:15:04,868 --> 00:15:05,828 show her 299 00:15:06,252 --> 00:15:07,852 tell her that you appreciate her 300 00:15:08,226 --> 00:15:11,376 tell her that you liked that particular meal she made. tell her 301 00:15:13,475 --> 00:15:15,125 Allah showed us that to live with them 302 00:15:15,759 --> 00:15:19,559 and to deal with them in a god way, in a kind way, so show that appreciation 303 00:15:21,244 --> 00:15:21,744 17 304 00:15:26,361 --> 00:15:28,561 to keep the love of your wife, encourage her 305 00:15:29,876 --> 00:15:31,676 to be in touch with her kin relation 306 00:15:33,562 --> 00:15:35,212 and to be kind to her mom and dad 307 00:15:36,344 --> 00:15:38,294 and to be in touch with her mom and dad 308 00:15:39,018 --> 00:15:40,518 that brings her life blessings 309 00:15:41,780 --> 00:15:44,630 that brings her life mercy from Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 310 00:15:45,198 --> 00:15:46,848 in return that blessing and mercy 311 00:15:47,354 --> 00:15:48,794 is your love 312 00:15:50,410 --> 00:15:52,560 and it is your mercy and it is your comfort 313 00:15:53,730 --> 00:15:54,450 no. 18 314 00:15:56,913 --> 00:15:58,163 speak 315 00:15:59,783 --> 00:16:01,183 of the topic of her interest 316 00:16:02,803 --> 00:16:05,803 choose the topic of her interest. You know sometimes you are 317 00:16:06,337 --> 00:16:09,687 ten hours outside home, twelve hours outside and that one hour 318 00:16:10,083 --> 00:16:12,133 two hours, three hours you spend with her 319 00:16:12,538 --> 00:16:14,338 some of us will carry a conversation 320 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:16,200 where really 321 00:16:16,593 --> 00:16:17,943 she has no interest in that 322 00:16:18,369 --> 00:16:21,169 he’ll come and tell her, you know, today in my training, 323 00:16:21,592 --> 00:16:25,642 I got somebody kicked in the stomach and he vomited at me and all these, you know 324 00:16:26,127 --> 00:16:28,377 No, that’s something she’s not interested in. 325 00:16:29,311 --> 00:16:30,711 Pick a topic of her interest 326 00:16:31,625 --> 00:16:32,675 It will keep the love 327 00:16:33,105 --> 00:16:34,355 It will increase the love 328 00:16:34,993 --> 00:16:36,043 It preserves the love 329 00:16:36,492 --> 00:16:36,992 19 330 00:16:38,152 --> 00:16:39,352 What is 19 331 00:16:42,360 --> 00:16:44,510 And this is seriously important matter that 332 00:16:45,681 --> 00:16:46,481 Right before her 333 00:16:48,550 --> 00:16:52,500 Relatives, right in front of her relatives, that you show that she is wonderful 334 00:16:54,561 --> 00:16:56,761 That you really mention that she’s wonderful 335 00:16:57,685 --> 00:17:00,735 That you admit and you accept and you realize and you confirm 336 00:17:02,926 --> 00:17:03,976 That she is wonderful 337 00:17:05,501 --> 00:17:06,751 Show that to her relative 338 00:17:07,383 --> 00:17:08,463 Speak out 339 00:17:08,859 --> 00:17:10,059 That she’s a good person 340 00:17:10,466 --> 00:17:11,766 That can preserve the love 341 00:17:12,138 --> 00:17:12,638 20 342 00:17:13,379 --> 00:17:15,329 rasulullah(SAW) gave us also major tips 343 00:17:17,067 --> 00:17:21,317 because what I’m telling you my brothers, my sisters is from the Quran and the sunnah 344 00:17:22,743 --> 00:17:25,093 rasulullah(SAW) in this particular point no. 20 345 00:17:28,581 --> 00:17:29,981 means give each other, gifts 346 00:17:32,140 --> 00:17:33,340 you will love each other 347 00:17:34,706 --> 00:17:37,906 you know that $5 gift, $50 gift, $500, whatever you could afford 348 00:17:40,319 --> 00:17:41,769 that gift, it goes a long way 349 00:17:43,531 --> 00:17:46,731 and this is confirmed by rasulullah(SAW), that when you give her 350 00:17:48,035 --> 00:17:49,035 gift 351 00:17:49,474 --> 00:17:51,974 she will love you, and that will increase the love 352 00:17:52,361 --> 00:17:53,811 and that will polish the love 353 00:17:54,232 --> 00:17:55,732 and you could try that anytime 354 00:17:56,485 --> 00:17:57,445 it works 355 00:17:57,834 --> 00:17:58,884 when is the last time 356 00:17:59,310 --> 00:18:00,710 you bought your wife a gift? 357 00:18:01,720 --> 00:18:03,720 My brothers, my sisters, it doesn’t mean 358 00:18:04,180 --> 00:18:06,680 That she’s my wife, I have to wait for an occasion 359 00:18:07,591 --> 00:18:08,091 No 360 00:18:08,744 --> 00:18:09,694 There’s an everyday 361 00:18:10,721 --> 00:18:12,771 A reason, why you have to give her a gift 362 00:18:13,690 --> 00:18:14,490 Take an example, 363 00:18:14,980 --> 00:18:15,820 Suppose 364 00:18:17,558 --> 00:18:18,508 You come to my home 365 00:18:20,193 --> 00:18:21,893 While you’re drinking your coffee, 366 00:18:22,422 --> 00:18:23,772 You pour it in your clothes 367 00:18:24,297 --> 00:18:26,197 You dropped the coffee in your clothes 368 00:18:26,552 --> 00:18:27,392 I come, 369 00:18:27,794 --> 00:18:29,244 Take your clothes personally, 370 00:18:29,655 --> 00:18:30,555 Wash your clothes, 371 00:18:31,155 --> 00:18:31,955 Dry your clothes 372 00:18:32,711 --> 00:18:33,611 Iron your clothes, 373 00:18:34,909 --> 00:18:35,809 What would happen? 374 00:18:36,669 --> 00:18:38,419 I’m sure, for the rest of your life 375 00:18:38,960 --> 00:18:42,660 You will not forget this story, you will not forget what I’ve done for you 376 00:18:43,103 --> 00:18:45,053 What about your wife, who’s doing daily 377 00:18:45,471 --> 00:18:46,421 Much more than that 378 00:18:47,432 --> 00:18:49,732 Whether she’s working at home, a full time mom 379 00:18:52,300 --> 00:18:55,400 Whether she’s working outside and again being a full time mom 380 00:18:59,430 --> 00:18:59,930 21 381 00:19:05,482 --> 00:19:07,162 And that means 382 00:19:07,545 --> 00:19:08,695 Getting rid of the rust 383 00:19:09,086 --> 00:19:10,386 Getting rid of the routine 384 00:19:10,813 --> 00:19:12,373 Surprise her, 385 00:19:12,842 --> 00:19:14,074 Make a change 386 00:19:14,462 --> 00:19:16,012 You know she is day in day out, 387 00:19:16,447 --> 00:19:17,847 Living a certain routine, 388 00:19:18,404 --> 00:19:20,404 Get rid of this routine once in a while, 389 00:19:20,894 --> 00:19:22,694 Scrub the rust, what does that mean? 390 00:19:23,244 --> 00:19:24,994 You know for example, you could buy 391 00:19:25,788 --> 00:19:26,868 A package 392 00:19:27,748 --> 00:19:29,048 And surprise her, you know 393 00:19:29,830 --> 00:19:31,930 For the next two days, or for the next day 394 00:19:33,245 --> 00:19:36,995 You’re staying at the niagra falls. There’s a nice hotel, there’s nice meal 395 00:19:38,172 --> 00:19:39,522 You know, that small action 396 00:19:41,236 --> 00:19:42,986 It will get rid of the regular rust 397 00:19:44,117 --> 00:19:45,067 The regular routine 398 00:19:45,952 --> 00:19:47,252 It will increase the love, 399 00:19:48,233 --> 00:19:49,083 Polishes the love 400 00:19:49,563 --> 00:19:52,713 One of the ways, in these 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 401 00:19:53,405 --> 00:19:54,605 Guaranteed 402 00:19:55,397 --> 00:19:55,897 22 403 00:19:59,085 --> 00:20:00,085 Actually Islamically 404 00:20:00,680 --> 00:20:01,480 We are requested 405 00:20:03,192 --> 00:20:04,292 And not only requested 406 00:20:04,732 --> 00:20:05,452 We are 407 00:20:05,924 --> 00:20:07,224 We have the demand upon us 408 00:20:08,069 --> 00:20:09,569 From Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 409 00:20:10,375 --> 00:20:11,675 That we have to think good 410 00:20:13,341 --> 00:20:14,891 Now thinking good of each other 411 00:20:15,940 --> 00:20:17,140 That applies to the wife 412 00:20:17,974 --> 00:20:18,814 As well 413 00:20:20,667 --> 00:20:23,067 Thinking good of your wife will protect the love 414 00:20:24,043 --> 00:20:24,893 Increase the love 415 00:20:25,455 --> 00:20:29,355 One of the ways, in this particular advice today to keep the love of your wife 416 00:20:31,722 --> 00:20:32,922 Guaranteed 417 00:20:36,362 --> 00:20:38,812 23 You know when I go through these, as point forms, 418 00:20:39,332 --> 00:20:41,432 But in reality you’re saying wait a second 419 00:20:41,989 --> 00:20:43,589 Maybe I’ve shortened this point, 420 00:20:44,003 --> 00:20:47,703 Maybe I never really practiced this point, you pick and choose my brothers 421 00:20:48,331 --> 00:20:49,431 Means have the manners 422 00:20:53,510 --> 00:20:56,260 Of just pretending you did not hear that word from your wife 423 00:20:56,752 --> 00:20:59,302 Pretend you did not see that certain thing she did 424 00:21:01,558 --> 00:21:05,958 Off course I’m not saying something huge an big because if she’s done something terrible 425 00:21:06,537 --> 00:21:08,887 You don’t want to help her shaitaan against her 426 00:21:09,686 --> 00:21:13,336 You wanna help her against her shaitaan, but that little things she has done, 427 00:21:14,340 --> 00:21:16,440 that you did not like, pretend you don’t see it 428 00:21:17,524 --> 00:21:18,624 Means that little word 429 00:21:20,379 --> 00:21:23,979 Something she said that you did not, you know like, pretend you did not hear 430 00:21:24,670 --> 00:21:25,870 That particular manners, 431 00:21:27,749 --> 00:21:30,849 Or that particular practice, it was a practice of imam Ali(RA) 432 00:21:33,262 --> 00:21:34,312 This way you’re like, 433 00:21:34,876 --> 00:21:36,376 Putting a hole in your memory. 434 00:21:37,132 --> 00:21:38,832 Just pretend you did not hear that 435 00:21:39,839 --> 00:21:42,239 Just get rid of it, don’t save it in your memory 436 00:21:43,557 --> 00:21:44,607 23 is khuluqutakneesh 437 00:21:46,013 --> 00:21:46,513 24 438 00:21:49,219 --> 00:21:50,539 And that is 439 00:21:51,063 --> 00:21:52,623 A point where 440 00:21:53,083 --> 00:21:55,483 Definitely, we need to practice sometimes daily. 441 00:21:57,227 --> 00:21:58,927 You have to add a drop of patience 442 00:22:01,059 --> 00:22:01,959 A drop of patience 443 00:22:03,130 --> 00:22:03,980 A brother told me 444 00:22:05,156 --> 00:22:06,606 That if he really can go back 445 00:22:08,122 --> 00:22:09,442 In his life 446 00:22:10,643 --> 00:22:13,393 And just add a drop of patience in things that he faced 447 00:22:15,341 --> 00:22:16,541 He wouldn’t be suffering 448 00:22:17,363 --> 00:22:18,963 The consequences of such a thing 449 00:22:19,968 --> 00:22:21,218 That he lived or suffered 450 00:22:22,144 --> 00:22:24,494 He said I needed really just a drop of patience 451 00:22:25,146 --> 00:22:26,746 And speaking of the point no. 24 452 00:22:28,171 --> 00:22:29,671 Increase the drops of patience 453 00:22:30,851 --> 00:22:32,171 At the time 454 00:22:32,657 --> 00:22:34,607 Where she’s pregnant or the time of her 455 00:22:35,333 --> 00:22:37,133 Monthly period, 456 00:22:37,564 --> 00:22:38,564 You need to increase 457 00:22:39,047 --> 00:22:40,852 Sometimes, just one drop of patience, 458 00:22:41,307 --> 00:22:42,307 It can go a long way 459 00:22:43,477 --> 00:22:44,227 Now 460 00:22:44,733 --> 00:22:45,683 We move to point 25 461 00:22:48,623 --> 00:22:49,573 Expect her jealousy 462 00:22:50,637 --> 00:22:51,637 Respect her jealousy 463 00:22:52,383 --> 00:22:53,283 Expect and respect 464 00:22:54,815 --> 00:22:55,665 You know, natural 465 00:22:56,703 --> 00:22:58,903 Our mothers, may Allah be pleased with them, 466 00:22:59,338 --> 00:23:00,688 Some times they used to get jealous 467 00:23:01,408 --> 00:23:03,208 rasulullah(SAW) 468 00:23:04,452 --> 00:23:05,772 got a gift, 469 00:23:06,176 --> 00:23:07,736 which is food 470 00:23:08,081 --> 00:23:08,981 delivered from the 471 00:23:09,766 --> 00:23:10,666 from the believers 472 00:23:11,495 --> 00:23:12,935 the sisters, 473 00:23:13,540 --> 00:23:14,980 the sahabiat 474 00:23:16,064 --> 00:23:17,214 the servant coming down 475 00:23:18,433 --> 00:23:20,033 to rasulullah(SAW) with the food 476 00:23:21,932 --> 00:23:24,682 and our mother Ayesha standing next to rasulullah(SAW), 477 00:23:25,753 --> 00:23:27,553 she got jealous 478 00:23:27,941 --> 00:23:28,891 she tipped the hand 479 00:23:29,341 --> 00:23:31,041 she tipped the hand of the servant 480 00:23:31,455 --> 00:23:32,805 that food fall on the floor 481 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,480 take a look at the wisdom of rasulullah(SAW) 482 00:23:35,933 --> 00:23:37,493 he went down, 483 00:23:37,493 --> 00:23:38,443 picking up the food 484 00:23:39,206 --> 00:23:40,406 giving everyone and said 485 00:23:42,748 --> 00:23:44,148 eat, your mother get jealous 486 00:23:45,090 --> 00:23:46,170 it’s over 487 00:23:46,609 --> 00:23:49,459 so expect and respect her jealousy, it protects your love 488 00:23:50,598 --> 00:23:51,098 26 489 00:23:56,614 --> 00:23:57,864 Means 490 00:23:58,248 --> 00:23:59,328 Be humble 491 00:23:59,737 --> 00:24:01,297 You’re really 492 00:24:01,581 --> 00:24:02,481 Raise in her heart 493 00:24:03,025 --> 00:24:04,275 Maybe you’re an engineer, 494 00:24:04,633 --> 00:24:05,683 Maybe you’re a doctor 495 00:24:06,110 --> 00:24:08,560 She doesn’t have a university degree but remember 496 00:24:09,764 --> 00:24:11,214 That she’s taking care of you 497 00:24:11,650 --> 00:24:14,300 And taking care of your heart which is your children, 498 00:24:14,689 --> 00:24:17,439 Because your children, it is your heart walking on earth 499 00:24:17,935 --> 00:24:18,785 So, she is really 500 00:24:20,403 --> 00:24:22,853 If you’re a doctor, she’s much more than a doctor 501 00:24:24,468 --> 00:24:33,554 She is the leader at home and what I mean by that word 502 00:24:33,554 --> 00:24:34,754 She is really the person 503 00:24:30,995 --> 00:24:31,845 That her strength 504 00:24:32,807 --> 00:24:33,607 Is your strength 505 00:24:34,575 --> 00:24:35,415 And her 506 00:24:36,672 --> 00:24:37,392 Really 507 00:24:38,493 --> 00:24:39,843 Her success is your success 508 00:24:40,645 --> 00:24:42,395 So no matter how successful you are 509 00:24:42,936 --> 00:24:44,786 We can’t be high and look at her down 510 00:24:46,564 --> 00:24:48,124 No, be humble 511 00:24:48,586 --> 00:24:49,836 You’ll raise in her heart 512 00:24:50,525 --> 00:24:51,025 27 513 00:24:53,417 --> 00:24:56,567 And this is something, a lot of brothers, they do practice that 514 00:24:57,901 --> 00:24:59,051 They want to make their 515 00:25:00,118 --> 00:25:01,518 Friends happy, but in return 516 00:25:02,471 --> 00:25:04,021 They make their home miserable 517 00:25:05,806 --> 00:25:09,456 You know, take an example, somebody could wake up his wife one,o’clock 518 00:25:10,051 --> 00:25:12,751 at the night, you know, we just came here to watch tv, 519 00:25:12,952 --> 00:25:14,502 Get up, make some dinner for us 520 00:25:14,887 --> 00:25:17,637 Come ‘on, she wants to take care of the children, children's school 521 00:25:18,594 --> 00:25:20,894 And this way you’re making your friends happy, 522 00:25:21,426 --> 00:25:22,726 But the price is very high 523 00:25:23,726 --> 00:25:24,806 Which is, 524 00:25:25,114 --> 00:25:26,414 You are putting the price, 525 00:25:26,925 --> 00:25:28,605 Your happiness 526 00:25:28,955 --> 00:25:31,355 Is the price. You’re sacrificing your happiness. 527 00:25:31,774 --> 00:25:32,274 28 528 00:25:35,818 --> 00:25:37,618 rasulullah(SAW) 529 00:25:38,776 --> 00:25:39,776 Used to help at home 530 00:25:43,535 --> 00:25:46,085 I’m the best among you is what rasulullah(SAW) said 531 00:25:47,198 --> 00:25:48,348 I am the best among you 532 00:25:48,993 --> 00:25:51,093 Indeed he was the best of Allah’s creation 533 00:25:51,570 --> 00:25:54,070 I’m the best among you and I’m the best to my wives 534 00:25:56,262 --> 00:25:59,562 So he even used to sew his own clothes rasulullah(SAW) and to help 535 00:26:01,164 --> 00:26:01,664 29 536 00:26:02,909 --> 00:26:03,749 This is 537 00:26:04,332 --> 00:26:06,012 Where recently 538 00:26:06,592 --> 00:26:07,672 A brother 539 00:26:08,038 --> 00:26:10,856 Wants to force his wife 540 00:26:10,856 --> 00:26:12,656 To love his mom 541 00:26:13,141 --> 00:26:14,391 you can’t force loving anyone 542 00:26:15,218 --> 00:26:16,178 You know 543 00:26:16,630 --> 00:26:17,590 Help her 544 00:26:17,972 --> 00:26:19,172 Respect your mom and dad 545 00:26:19,554 --> 00:26:21,234 And gradually, 546 00:26:21,583 --> 00:26:22,483 The love will come 547 00:26:23,272 --> 00:26:26,872 The love could come instantly but you can’t force the love rest assure 548 00:26:27,634 --> 00:26:28,784 My brothers, my sisters 549 00:26:29,701 --> 00:26:31,301 You love your mom and dad, great, we love them 550 00:26:31,681 --> 00:26:32,781 And it's the best, 551 00:26:34,111 --> 00:26:38,611 One of the best business to do with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala’s to please your mom and dad 552 00:26:39,397 --> 00:26:42,097 But you can’t force your wife to love your mom and dad 553 00:26:42,502 --> 00:26:44,052 Help her to respect mom and dad 554 00:26:45,163 --> 00:26:49,463 And gradually to love them, the love’s in the heart and only Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 555 00:26:50,630 --> 00:26:52,930 Has control of this heart. You can’t force her 556 00:26:53,656 --> 00:26:54,856 To love your mom and dad 557 00:26:58,335 --> 00:26:59,295 Which is 558 00:26:59,696 --> 00:27:00,656 Help her 559 00:27:01,077 --> 00:27:02,577 To be kind to your mom and dad 560 00:27:03,375 --> 00:27:04,815 Point no. 30 561 00:27:05,585 --> 00:27:06,545 Which is 562 00:27:08,083 --> 00:27:09,233 When you show your wife 563 00:27:09,722 --> 00:27:11,162 That you are 564 00:27:12,840 --> 00:27:13,940 You are the ideal wife 565 00:27:16,185 --> 00:27:18,935 Just by her thinking that way, you’re not telling a lie 566 00:27:20,464 --> 00:27:21,764 She is, in many ways ideal 567 00:27:23,884 --> 00:27:26,434 Each and every wife is an ideal, no matter how good 568 00:27:27,833 --> 00:27:29,633 Or great she is 569 00:27:30,347 --> 00:27:32,797 Or half great she is, she’s an ideal in many ways 570 00:27:36,902 --> 00:27:39,452 And make her feel that way that she’s an ideal wife 571 00:27:40,773 --> 00:27:43,273 You know, that will help and will protect the love 572 00:27:43,864 --> 00:27:44,964 Will increase the love 573 00:27:46,138 --> 00:27:47,288 My brothers, my sisters 574 00:27:50,767 --> 00:27:52,207 Point no. 31 575 00:27:52,609 --> 00:27:54,409 To remember your wife with the dua’a 576 00:27:54,894 --> 00:27:57,444 Wallahe this the matter, that will protect the love 577 00:27:59,247 --> 00:28:00,497 It will really guaranteed 578 00:28:03,024 --> 00:28:04,274 Help to increase the love 579 00:28:04,686 --> 00:28:06,336 Not just protected as stays as is 580 00:28:07,646 --> 00:28:09,596 Especially if she knows that you really 581 00:28:10,219 --> 00:28:13,869 Choose great timing and great places to make dua’a to pray for her 582 00:28:16,855 --> 00:28:17,855 It protects the love 583 00:28:20,894 --> 00:28:21,944 Which is point no. 32 584 00:28:22,667 --> 00:28:24,817 Leave the past to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 585 00:28:25,243 --> 00:28:27,093 You are not Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 586 00:28:27,553 --> 00:28:30,553 You are not in charge of her past. I have counseled a family 587 00:28:32,181 --> 00:28:33,981 Who really suffered a terrible fight 588 00:28:36,405 --> 00:28:39,855 Then they settle down, then they have fights, a terrible fight again, 589 00:28:40,541 --> 00:28:41,791 They settle, what happen? 590 00:28:42,563 --> 00:28:43,563 The husband happened 591 00:28:44,296 --> 00:28:50,749 To dig in something 592 00:28:50,749 --> 00:28:52,309 His wife did, 593 00:28:47,204 --> 00:28:48,764 Ten years ago 594 00:28:49,796 --> 00:28:51,196 Some type of negative energy 595 00:28:52,552 --> 00:28:53,802 That spills in their life 596 00:28:54,995 --> 00:28:56,345 Each time he remembers that 597 00:28:57,658 --> 00:28:59,408 It really leads them to a big fight 598 00:28:59,875 --> 00:29:01,025 And sometimes a divorce 599 00:29:01,913 --> 00:29:02,913 Why? 600 00:29:03,302 --> 00:29:04,252 Because that matter 601 00:29:04,683 --> 00:29:05,683 Was not his business 602 00:29:07,009 --> 00:29:09,359 You are not Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala. The past 603 00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:15,160 The past for Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala, we don’t dig in the past 604 00:29:17,031 --> 00:29:18,591 It brings you 605 00:29:18,972 --> 00:29:20,122 It may bring you misery 606 00:29:21,349 --> 00:29:22,499 My brothers, my sisters 607 00:29:23,664 --> 00:29:25,514 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 608 00:29:25,984 --> 00:29:27,184 Guaranteed 609 00:29:27,668 --> 00:29:28,868 Take these 610 00:29:30,163 --> 00:29:31,813 And ask Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 611 00:29:32,196 --> 00:29:34,696 To help each and everyone of us to practice these, 612 00:29:35,586 --> 00:29:39,836 because when you’re not happy at home, rest assure you’re not gonna be happy anywhere else 613 00:29:40,605 --> 00:29:44,205 that’s why sakeena, sakeena at home. Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala showed us 614 00:29:45,374 --> 00:29:47,974 that the tranquility, it’s with the husband and wife 615 00:29:48,738 --> 00:29:50,298 it is at home 616 00:29:50,688 --> 00:29:52,988 the sakeena, the love and comfort and security 617 00:29:53,371 --> 00:29:54,931 it is at home 618 00:29:55,295 --> 00:29:56,735 point no. 33 619 00:30:00,443 --> 00:30:01,443 what does that mean? 620 00:30:02,437 --> 00:30:06,137 Don’t try to show her that you’re doing her a favour to bring food at home 621 00:30:08,230 --> 00:30:09,930 Or to bring certain things at home 622 00:30:10,904 --> 00:30:13,654 Don’t show that you’re doing them a favour and you know 623 00:30:14,369 --> 00:30:16,019 I’m doing this and I’m doing that 624 00:30:17,739 --> 00:30:19,489 Why? Because in reality, me and you 625 00:30:20,917 --> 00:30:22,117 We are only the carriers 626 00:30:23,125 --> 00:30:23,975 We carry the rizq 627 00:30:25,308 --> 00:30:29,058 We are not the providers, we carry the assissteners whatever Allah provide your family 628 00:30:30,606 --> 00:30:33,006 You are not the provider, Allah is the provider, 629 00:30:34,455 --> 00:30:35,455 You are the courier. 630 00:30:36,350 --> 00:30:39,000 If you think that way, it protects the love, to avoid 631 00:30:40,134 --> 00:30:43,734 Showing that I’m doing you a favour, it protects the love, not only that 632 00:30:44,449 --> 00:30:47,899 That’s one of the way that you are praising Allah, I’m only a courier 633 00:30:48,816 --> 00:30:50,416 I’m only a courier to the family 634 00:30:51,101 --> 00:30:54,251 And it is a way also of being humble, Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 635 00:30:55,354 --> 00:30:58,004 Will raise you in her heart and will protect the love 636 00:30:58,391 --> 00:30:59,591 Guaranteed 637 00:30:59,984 --> 00:31:00,984 43…. 638 00:31:02,799 --> 00:31:04,049 Or 34 639 00:31:04,433 --> 00:31:05,393 Point 34 640 00:31:07,546 --> 00:31:08,496 Satin is your enemy 641 00:31:09,739 --> 00:31:11,089 Your wife is not your enemy 642 00:31:12,088 --> 00:31:13,528 Rest assure, 643 00:31:13,929 --> 00:31:14,829 Satin is the enemy 644 00:31:15,721 --> 00:31:18,671 And this is here where you’d realize that sometimes people, 645 00:31:19,846 --> 00:31:21,896 Husband and wife, they’re talking somehow 646 00:31:23,588 --> 00:31:25,268 A fight breaks 647 00:31:26,086 --> 00:31:29,286 Why? Because you are one, your wife is two, the shaitaan is no.3 648 00:31:31,502 --> 00:31:33,552 Take the shaitaan as an enemy. Most of us 649 00:31:35,551 --> 00:31:36,631 Will know 650 00:31:37,473 --> 00:31:41,173 That if I ask you, do you like the shaitaan, no, I don’t like the shaitaan 651 00:31:41,619 --> 00:31:43,519 That’s not enough to hate the shaitaan 652 00:31:43,854 --> 00:31:47,654 We have to take the shaitaan as an enemy. Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala decalred 653 00:31:48,097 --> 00:31:50,297 That we have, that the shaitaan is our enemy 654 00:31:52,478 --> 00:31:54,328 Consider him, deal with him, beware of him 655 00:31:55,086 --> 00:31:56,406 As an enemy 656 00:31:57,007 --> 00:31:58,457 So your wife is not the enemy 657 00:31:58,948 --> 00:31:59,848 The shaitaan loves 658 00:32:00,867 --> 00:32:02,427 Loves divorce 659 00:32:02,903 --> 00:32:05,203 Loves to separate between a husband and a wife 660 00:32:05,656 --> 00:32:06,736 Will come 661 00:32:07,101 --> 00:32:08,061 Everyday 662 00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:09,920 And set his 663 00:32:10,213 --> 00:32:11,313 Lets suppose an office 664 00:32:13,776 --> 00:32:15,526 Will ask the shayateen, the devils, 665 00:32:16,687 --> 00:32:17,637 What have you done? 666 00:32:18,472 --> 00:32:20,672 Some would say, I had made this person steal 667 00:32:21,032 --> 00:32:22,732 Okay take this. What have you done? 668 00:32:23,117 --> 00:32:24,517 I had made this person drink 669 00:32:24,878 --> 00:32:26,578 Okay take this. What have you done? 670 00:32:27,227 --> 00:32:28,977 I had made this person do so and so 671 00:32:29,338 --> 00:32:31,038 Okay take this. What have you done? 672 00:32:31,742 --> 00:32:33,092 One of the devils would say 673 00:32:33,987 --> 00:32:34,987 I have made this man 674 00:32:36,356 --> 00:32:37,156 Divorce his wife 675 00:32:38,731 --> 00:32:40,031 The shaitaan will call him 676 00:32:41,453 --> 00:32:42,353 And would say, you 677 00:32:43,021 --> 00:32:44,101 Come here 678 00:32:44,584 --> 00:32:45,634 And will get crowned, 679 00:32:47,509 --> 00:32:48,659 Will put a crown on him 680 00:32:49,163 --> 00:32:50,463 So therefore, rest assure, 681 00:32:50,957 --> 00:32:52,307 Your wife is not your enemy 682 00:32:52,794 --> 00:32:53,994 The shaitaan is an enemy 683 00:32:54,430 --> 00:32:55,480 Take him as an enemy, 684 00:32:55,846 --> 00:32:57,096 Deal with him as an enemy 685 00:32:57,585 --> 00:33:00,285 Rest assure that sometimes when you talk to your wife, 686 00:33:00,751 --> 00:33:04,051 He’s the one who tries to throw words in your mouth to fire at her 687 00:33:04,773 --> 00:33:06,573 Or words in her mouth to fire at you 688 00:33:07,005 --> 00:33:08,105 Beware of the shaitaan 689 00:33:08,613 --> 00:33:09,113 35 690 00:33:14,031 --> 00:33:16,481 rasulullah(SAW) taught us that when you take food 691 00:33:17,167 --> 00:33:18,117 and you put it into 692 00:33:19,061 --> 00:33:20,761 her mouth, into your wife’s mouth. 693 00:33:22,266 --> 00:33:23,266 This 694 00:33:23,596 --> 00:33:25,156 Is a blessing 695 00:33:25,491 --> 00:33:27,491 You’ll get blessing, you’ll get rewarded 696 00:33:27,850 --> 00:33:29,410 Not only that 697 00:33:29,797 --> 00:33:31,297 It’s not going to the stomach, 698 00:33:31,568 --> 00:33:32,718 It’s going to the heart 699 00:33:33,609 --> 00:33:35,859 It increases the love, it increases the mercy 700 00:33:36,279 --> 00:33:38,529 One of the ways to keep the love of your wife 701 00:33:39,267 --> 00:33:40,467 Guaranteed 702 00:33:40,876 --> 00:33:41,376 36 703 00:33:44,030 --> 00:33:45,930 Some of us will consider his wife like 704 00:33:47,880 --> 00:33:51,330 A precious pearl which is a nice way to think of it and to look at it 705 00:33:51,926 --> 00:33:53,176 As she’s a precious pearl 706 00:33:54,685 --> 00:33:57,835 One of the most precious pearl. will tell you my wife is my princess 707 00:33:58,634 --> 00:33:59,784 She’s my precious pearl 708 00:34:00,582 --> 00:34:01,932 You know the precious pearl 709 00:34:03,147 --> 00:34:04,447 You don’t leave it hanging 710 00:34:05,422 --> 00:34:07,622 Just on the floor or just lying on the floor 711 00:34:09,053 --> 00:34:10,453 You know the precious pearl, 712 00:34:10,862 --> 00:34:15,630 You don’t leave it for anyone to touch or abuse, no 713 00:34:15,630 --> 00:34:17,230 The most precious pearl on earth 714 00:34:17,750 --> 00:34:21,050 if you ask someone and say which one is more precious, your wife 715 00:34:21,631 --> 00:34:24,081 Or the most precious pearl on earth. He would say 716 00:34:24,767 --> 00:34:25,607 My wife 717 00:34:26,546 --> 00:34:30,196 So therefore protect your wife, protect this precious pearl from the envy 718 00:34:32,553 --> 00:34:33,353 Of the shayateen 719 00:34:37,492 --> 00:34:38,892 The devils of the human type 720 00:34:40,062 --> 00:34:41,612 Or the devils of the genie type 721 00:34:42,729 --> 00:34:44,429 Protect her from that type of envy 722 00:34:45,315 --> 00:34:47,615 And speaking of the pearls, now we go to point 723 00:34:48,605 --> 00:34:49,105 37 724 00:34:50,052 --> 00:34:52,152 Show her your pearls. What does that mean? 725 00:34:52,591 --> 00:34:53,541 Show her your smile 726 00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:56,160 Show her your smile. 727 00:34:56,561 --> 00:34:57,811 Some of us, outside home, 728 00:34:58,742 --> 00:35:00,042 He will smile for everyone 729 00:35:00,457 --> 00:35:02,607 Anyone in the street he will smile for them 730 00:35:03,044 --> 00:35:06,394 Even a raccoon walking in the street. He will smile for the raccoon 731 00:35:07,047 --> 00:35:08,347 But when he comes to home 732 00:35:08,786 --> 00:35:11,086 The mouth is out of service. There is no smile 733 00:35:11,618 --> 00:35:13,518 The face is so rigid like a hard bread 734 00:35:14,842 --> 00:35:17,042 If he smile he thinks that’s gonna crack. No 735 00:35:18,116 --> 00:35:19,066 Smile for your wife 736 00:35:19,897 --> 00:35:21,697 It is a sadakah 737 00:35:22,084 --> 00:35:24,034 Your smile, it is like giving a charity 738 00:35:24,743 --> 00:35:26,793 And it brings a beautiful positive energy 739 00:35:27,748 --> 00:35:29,548 Into her heart. 740 00:35:29,936 --> 00:35:30,936 It protects the love 741 00:35:31,406 --> 00:35:32,456 It increases the love 742 00:35:33,072 --> 00:35:33,572 38 743 00:35:37,422 --> 00:35:39,102 That sometimes 744 00:35:39,482 --> 00:35:40,802 Small spark 745 00:35:41,356 --> 00:35:42,356 You leave somewhere, 746 00:35:42,838 --> 00:35:44,398 Come later on 747 00:35:44,920 --> 00:35:46,820 You’ll find the whole building on fire 748 00:35:47,248 --> 00:35:48,688 Small stones 749 00:35:49,176 --> 00:35:51,776 Or small ……just adding up, adding up, adding up will 750 00:35:55,497 --> 00:35:57,597 It will cause a big mountain or a big wall 751 00:35:58,426 --> 00:35:59,976 To be between you and your wife 752 00:36:01,898 --> 00:36:05,548 This little problem that you, or little challenge that you really did not 753 00:36:07,414 --> 00:36:08,854 Take care of 754 00:36:09,392 --> 00:36:11,692 It becomes a problem and that little challenge 755 00:36:12,974 --> 00:36:15,524 That really you ignored or you repeated that little 756 00:36:17,051 --> 00:36:18,401 Things that she didn’t like 757 00:36:19,322 --> 00:36:21,272 You repeated that, it becomes a problem 758 00:36:22,364 --> 00:36:23,564 And these little things, 759 00:36:24,065 --> 00:36:26,715 They’ll add up and you so suddenly find that there is 760 00:36:27,477 --> 00:36:28,677 Walls between you and her 761 00:36:29,824 --> 00:36:32,274 Don’t ignore these little matters. Deal with them 762 00:36:34,110 --> 00:36:36,310 Sometimes they could be a small challenges…… 763 00:36:37,394 --> 00:36:39,794 ignoring them could become a serious big problem 764 00:36:41,317 --> 00:36:41,817 39 765 00:36:44,874 --> 00:36:46,674 rasulullah(SAW) 766 00:36:48,254 --> 00:36:50,554 means avoid being harsh hearted and just moody 767 00:36:53,038 --> 00:36:54,838 rasulullah(SAW), Allah glorified him 768 00:36:56,503 --> 00:36:58,403 Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala honoured him 769 00:36:59,268 --> 00:37:00,348 By saying 770 00:37:03,403 --> 00:37:05,003 If you were hard, harsh hearted, 771 00:37:06,937 --> 00:37:08,687 They would have break away from you 772 00:37:09,477 --> 00:37:13,627 Means the companions would leave you and that’s a confirmation that rasulullah(SAW) 773 00:37:14,330 --> 00:37:15,680 Was not hard, harsh hearted 774 00:37:17,056 --> 00:37:20,406 So if you happen to be one of those people, their chest is so tight 775 00:37:21,240 --> 00:37:22,190 And you’re so moody 776 00:37:22,952 --> 00:37:24,752 Get rid of it, it protects your love 777 00:37:25,999 --> 00:37:28,249 One of the ways to keep the love of your wife 778 00:37:28,691 --> 00:37:29,891 Guaranteed 779 00:37:30,271 --> 00:37:30,771 40 780 00:37:31,536 --> 00:37:32,536 Respect her thinking 781 00:37:33,293 --> 00:37:35,593 Because her thinking, it is a strength for you 782 00:37:36,450 --> 00:37:40,050 And show that you respect her thinking, show you appreciate her thinking 783 00:37:40,942 --> 00:37:41,662 Really 784 00:37:42,286 --> 00:37:47,236 Sometimes you’re listening to her the way how she’s thinking or the way how she suggested something 785 00:37:48,376 --> 00:37:50,426 Show that you really like that suggestion 786 00:37:51,415 --> 00:37:55,465 Show that you really appreciate that particular thought, respecting her thought 787 00:37:56,178 --> 00:37:57,028 It keeps the love 788 00:37:58,108 --> 00:37:58,608 41 789 00:37:59,342 --> 00:38:00,742 Help her to dig in her heart 790 00:38:03,692 --> 00:38:04,792 Help her to dig within 791 00:38:05,867 --> 00:38:07,017 To discover more skills 792 00:38:08,572 --> 00:38:10,322 Because her success is your success 793 00:38:11,318 --> 00:38:12,518 Help her to dig and find 794 00:38:13,848 --> 00:38:15,528 Success within 795 00:38:16,096 --> 00:38:17,296 That will keep the love, 796 00:38:17,731 --> 00:38:18,931 It will protect the love 797 00:38:20,181 --> 00:38:21,481 42 my brothers, my sisters 798 00:38:23,306 --> 00:38:24,706 Now this is a serious matter 799 00:38:25,234 --> 00:38:26,194 Which is 800 00:38:30,346 --> 00:38:32,146 Respecting the intimate relationship 801 00:38:34,229 --> 00:38:35,429 And the boundaries of it 802 00:38:37,137 --> 00:38:38,437 And you could go a long 803 00:38:40,274 --> 00:38:45,150 Conversation on this point by itself 804 00:38:45,150 --> 00:38:47,700 rasulullah(SAW) for example showed us that you know 805 00:38:48,175 --> 00:38:49,975 she’s a fragile 806 00:38:50,371 --> 00:38:51,671 so that particular whistle 807 00:38:52,433 --> 00:38:53,933 she gotta be handled carefully 808 00:38:54,905 --> 00:38:55,655 the 809 00:38:56,078 --> 00:38:56,878 the relationship 810 00:38:58,133 --> 00:39:01,133 the intimate relationship has boundaries and has limitations 811 00:39:03,688 --> 00:39:06,238 sometimes maybe she’s not feeling well. She is sick 812 00:39:07,544 --> 00:39:11,544 you gotta respect that feeling. You gotta respect and appreciate that she is not 813 00:39:13,171 --> 00:39:15,021 in a mood to be ready for your desire 814 00:39:17,327 --> 00:39:18,477 respect that particular 815 00:39:19,346 --> 00:39:20,186 feeling 816 00:39:20,832 --> 00:39:21,832 it protects the love 817 00:39:22,371 --> 00:39:24,221 respect the boundaries that how can I 818 00:39:26,190 --> 00:39:27,090 enjoy with my wife 819 00:39:29,582 --> 00:39:31,932 through the ways that Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 820 00:39:32,548 --> 00:39:33,398 permitted for you 821 00:39:34,505 --> 00:39:37,105 which is through the way that she delivers the baby, 822 00:39:39,206 --> 00:39:40,506 which is called the vagina 823 00:39:41,778 --> 00:39:44,478 so respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship 824 00:39:48,481 --> 00:39:51,031 respect the boundaries of the intimate relationship 825 00:39:51,524 --> 00:39:53,724 to stay all the time in the halal boundaries 826 00:39:55,034 --> 00:39:56,284 that will protect the love 827 00:39:57,924 --> 00:39:59,374 it protects the relationship, 828 00:39:59,952 --> 00:40:01,152 it protects your marriage 829 00:40:01,844 --> 00:40:04,244 one of the 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 830 00:40:05,238 --> 00:40:06,438 guaranteed 831 00:40:07,100 --> 00:40:07,600 43 832 00:40:11,992 --> 00:40:13,392 Means our children, they are 833 00:40:14,312 --> 00:40:15,112 Really our heart 834 00:40:15,866 --> 00:40:16,666 Walking on earth 835 00:40:17,677 --> 00:40:18,637 Help her 836 00:40:19,081 --> 00:40:20,381 To take care of your heart 837 00:40:21,648 --> 00:40:22,608 You know 838 00:40:23,465 --> 00:40:26,515 You’ll find some obrothers who think to help with the children 839 00:40:27,233 --> 00:40:29,783 I’m a less of a man if I help with the children. No 840 00:40:30,662 --> 00:40:31,662 You are a bigger man 841 00:40:33,243 --> 00:40:34,343 You are more respected 842 00:40:35,184 --> 00:40:38,184 You are even more within the sight of Allah, and rasulullah(SAW) 843 00:40:39,922 --> 00:40:41,722 When you help her with your children 844 00:40:42,639 --> 00:40:44,389 One way to keep the love guaranteed 845 00:40:45,824 --> 00:40:46,324 44 846 00:40:48,679 --> 00:40:49,829 The gifts of the tongue 847 00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:52,240 Some of us 848 00:40:52,663 --> 00:40:55,163 Will think that to say something nice to your wife 849 00:40:55,599 --> 00:40:56,849 Means you know I’m mushy, 850 00:40:57,641 --> 00:41:00,941 I’m just giving her sweet talk. No. this is the gift of the tongue 851 00:41:02,330 --> 00:41:05,080 Tell her that you know, you look great today mashAllah, 852 00:41:05,593 --> 00:41:06,393 You’re so bright 853 00:41:06,845 --> 00:41:07,421 you know something about you today mashAllah 854 00:41:07,421 --> 00:41:10,844 If she’s like you know , just got married today, give her the gifts of the tongue 855 00:41:10,844 --> 00:41:12,284 Be an artist 856 00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,400 Pick and choose what you’re gonna say to her 857 00:41:20,076 --> 00:41:20,874 You know, 858 00:41:21,255 --> 00:41:22,116 It is not 859 00:41:22,527 --> 00:41:24,127 Being hypocrite. No. this is the 860 00:41:24,610 --> 00:41:25,610 Gifts of the tongues 861 00:41:27,176 --> 00:41:27,676 45 862 00:41:32,412 --> 00:41:33,862 Some wives would say you know 863 00:41:35,006 --> 00:41:36,326 My husband, 864 00:41:36,751 --> 00:41:38,451 I rarely sit down and eat with him 865 00:41:40,126 --> 00:41:43,726 My husband really doesn’t know how my food tastes. He’s always on the go 866 00:41:44,902 --> 00:41:45,702 He’s always busy 867 00:41:47,487 --> 00:41:49,887 Don’t be strange to sit down and to eat with her 868 00:41:51,732 --> 00:41:55,982 Don’t be strange to put the particular food in her mouth where previously I mentioned 869 00:41:58,174 --> 00:41:58,974 For these people 870 00:42:00,286 --> 00:42:01,086 Just to sit down 871 00:42:02,319 --> 00:42:04,169 I happen to actually counsel a family 872 00:42:04,916 --> 00:42:06,016 Where the wife really, 873 00:42:06,938 --> 00:42:08,138 Like crave 874 00:42:08,559 --> 00:42:11,459 Crave for her husband to sit down and have a meal with her 875 00:42:12,625 --> 00:42:14,725 That protects the love, increases the love 876 00:42:15,930 --> 00:42:19,180 And my brothers, my sisters, all these points that I’m mentioning 877 00:42:19,769 --> 00:42:20,619 I’m not inventing 878 00:42:21,506 --> 00:42:22,466 Thoughts 879 00:42:22,871 --> 00:42:24,171 I’m not inventing a rocket 880 00:42:24,794 --> 00:42:26,044 These are just a reminder 881 00:42:26,584 --> 00:42:28,484 It really help each and everyone of us 882 00:42:28,948 --> 00:42:32,412 That even you could give that cd 883 00:42:31,603 --> 00:42:33,453 To someone who’s just getting married 884 00:42:33,899 --> 00:42:37,415 Or wants to get married or in a wedding party 885 00:42:37,415 --> 00:42:41,765 Rest assure that anyone will benefit from these points because they are from the Quraan 886 00:42:42,289 --> 00:42:43,036 And the sunnah 887 00:42:43,442 --> 00:42:44,542 I benefit, you benefit 888 00:42:45,035 --> 00:42:45,835 Everyone benefit 889 00:42:46,528 --> 00:42:49,878 inshAllah, may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala put barakah in this effort 890 00:42:50,562 --> 00:42:51,062 46 891 00:42:54,478 --> 00:42:56,178 Let her know that you’re traveling 892 00:42:57,605 --> 00:42:58,505 Don’t surprise her 893 00:42:59,087 --> 00:43:00,647 Not only that 894 00:43:00,990 --> 00:43:02,540 Let her know that you’re coming 895 00:43:03,003 --> 00:43:03,953 What day, what time 896 00:43:04,597 --> 00:43:08,197 It is against Islam that you just surprise her and knock the door on her 897 00:43:09,446 --> 00:43:10,396 It is against Islam 898 00:43:11,736 --> 00:43:13,536 So let her know, when you’re leaving 899 00:43:13,990 --> 00:43:15,540 Let her know when you’re coming 900 00:43:16,526 --> 00:43:17,426 Don’t surprise her 901 00:43:19,789 --> 00:43:20,289 47 902 00:43:25,027 --> 00:43:26,577 Some of us would start carrying 903 00:43:27,060 --> 00:43:28,660 A particular debate or let’s say 904 00:43:30,896 --> 00:43:34,046 Half argument which is preferably always tough to avoid arguing 905 00:43:35,253 --> 00:43:37,753 But as soon as there’s some type of a conversation 906 00:43:38,368 --> 00:43:39,768 That could lead to arguments 907 00:43:42,336 --> 00:43:44,086 or could lead to a bit of challenge 908 00:43:44,878 --> 00:43:46,928 He would right away feel like a magnet 909 00:43:47,425 --> 00:43:48,575 Pulling him out of home 910 00:43:49,325 --> 00:43:50,575 Don’t 911 00:43:51,008 --> 00:43:52,658 Don’t co operate with this magnet 912 00:43:53,151 --> 00:43:54,501 As soon you’re leaving home 913 00:43:55,058 --> 00:43:56,108 In certain situations 914 00:43:57,163 --> 00:44:00,363 It might be just for you to leave that five minutes, two minutes 915 00:44:01,361 --> 00:44:02,161 Might be healthy 916 00:44:02,863 --> 00:44:03,763 But for some of us 917 00:44:04,883 --> 00:44:07,833 Who’ll just as soon something happen, he’ll just leave home 918 00:44:08,761 --> 00:44:09,841 Quit this 919 00:44:10,282 --> 00:44:11,532 It will protect your love 920 00:44:11,976 --> 00:44:13,576 It will really enhance your love 921 00:44:14,028 --> 00:44:16,428 One of the 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 922 00:44:16,884 --> 00:44:18,084 Guaranteed 923 00:44:18,426 --> 00:44:19,576 My brothers, my sisters 924 00:44:21,570 --> 00:44:23,010 Point no. 48 925 00:44:24,045 --> 00:44:25,045 That 926 00:44:25,416 --> 00:44:26,376 The home 927 00:44:27,449 --> 00:44:28,599 Has secrecy and privacy 928 00:44:32,186 --> 00:44:34,186 Once you take this privacy to the public 929 00:44:35,670 --> 00:44:40,370 And the secrecy of your wife and privacy to your best friend or to your two three four friends 930 00:44:42,571 --> 00:44:44,131 You’re really 931 00:44:44,550 --> 00:44:45,345 Putting 932 00:44:45,726 --> 00:44:46,726 A serious, dangerous 933 00:44:47,100 --> 00:44:48,250 Hole into your marriage 934 00:44:49,042 --> 00:44:50,392 And into your love relation 935 00:44:50,806 --> 00:44:52,056 These 936 00:44:52,436 --> 00:44:53,336 Secrets stays home 937 00:44:54,470 --> 00:44:55,670 These privacy stays home 938 00:44:57,216 --> 00:44:59,266 And Islam is against taking these privacy 939 00:45:00,359 --> 00:45:01,679 And secrecy 940 00:45:02,282 --> 00:45:04,232 And just leave it in like a garage sale 941 00:45:04,896 --> 00:45:06,646 For anyone to come, pick and choose 942 00:45:07,683 --> 00:45:09,003 We go to 49 943 00:45:09,616 --> 00:45:11,016 And this is really beautiful 944 00:45:11,686 --> 00:45:14,036 That you encourage each other, with the ibadaat 945 00:45:15,563 --> 00:45:17,663 With worshipping Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 946 00:45:18,246 --> 00:45:19,396 that increases the love 947 00:45:20,100 --> 00:45:21,060 You know 948 00:45:21,473 --> 00:45:22,673 You plan a trip for hajj 949 00:45:23,203 --> 00:45:24,053 Or umrah together 950 00:45:24,938 --> 00:45:26,488 That really increases the love, 951 00:45:26,929 --> 00:45:28,079 Really enhance the love 952 00:45:28,972 --> 00:45:30,372 It makes the love so genuine 953 00:45:31,466 --> 00:45:32,366 To help each other 954 00:45:32,858 --> 00:45:34,658 To worship Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 955 00:45:35,172 --> 00:45:36,472 And to share these ibadaat 956 00:45:36,955 --> 00:45:37,855 Let’s go for umrah 957 00:45:38,798 --> 00:45:41,648 Let’s go to the masjid and listen to this particular kari 958 00:45:43,106 --> 00:45:44,406 Or this particular speaker 959 00:45:46,983 --> 00:45:48,033 This particular daras 960 00:45:48,524 --> 00:45:50,624 Lesson, help each other with the ibaadaat, 961 00:45:51,067 --> 00:45:52,567 Lets go and make tahajud today 962 00:45:53,551 --> 00:45:54,701 My brothers, my sisters 963 00:45:55,206 --> 00:45:56,256 It protects the love, 964 00:45:56,687 --> 00:45:57,687 It enhances the love 965 00:45:58,139 --> 00:45:59,579 Point no. 50 966 00:46:00,532 --> 00:46:02,132 That to know that her rights, 967 00:46:02,567 --> 00:46:04,367 Not only written on a piece of paper 968 00:46:05,660 --> 00:46:06,160 No 969 00:46:07,185 --> 00:46:10,435 But they’re really fighting now a days saying shariah and shariah 970 00:46:11,829 --> 00:46:14,329 No her rights not only written on a piece of paper 971 00:46:14,854 --> 00:46:16,354 That is engraved in your heart 972 00:46:16,914 --> 00:46:18,514 It is engraved in your conscious 973 00:46:19,749 --> 00:46:20,469 Really 974 00:46:20,993 --> 00:46:21,993 We don’t need anyone 975 00:46:22,413 --> 00:46:22,913 To 976 00:46:23,645 --> 00:46:27,045 Engrave them in our hearts. We have to really engrave them ourselves 977 00:46:27,882 --> 00:46:30,082 Her rights upon you, engraved in your heart, 978 00:46:31,517 --> 00:46:32,817 Engraved in your conscious 979 00:46:33,420 --> 00:46:33,920 51 980 00:46:36,435 --> 00:46:39,035 Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared that in the Quran 981 00:46:40,874 --> 00:46:42,774 You know, live with them with kindness 982 00:46:43,679 --> 00:46:44,999 Be the best 983 00:46:45,379 --> 00:46:46,939 For your wife 984 00:46:47,282 --> 00:46:48,482 Treat them with kindness 985 00:46:49,245 --> 00:46:50,805 treat them with goodness 986 00:46:51,278 --> 00:46:52,428 That will go a long way 987 00:46:52,921 --> 00:46:54,601 And that means 988 00:46:55,044 --> 00:46:58,494 In the happy times, or in the sad times, you treat her with kindness, 989 00:46:59,046 --> 00:47:00,606 With fairness 990 00:47:01,007 --> 00:47:02,257 In the time of prosperity or diversity 991 00:47:02,980 --> 00:47:04,630 You’re treating her with kindness 992 00:47:06,355 --> 00:47:07,915 With goodness 993 00:47:08,258 --> 00:47:09,818 With fairness 994 00:47:10,173 --> 00:47:14,123 May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala help us all to practice these points, my brothers 995 00:47:14,745 --> 00:47:17,995 May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala help us to practise them with sincerity 996 00:47:19,147 --> 00:47:21,447 And to enjoy the delicious taste of practicing 997 00:47:22,881 --> 00:47:25,231 These points and you could add to these points 998 00:47:26,106 --> 00:47:28,506 When I say 60 ways to keep the love of your wife 999 00:47:29,071 --> 00:47:30,321 Guaranteed, you could add 1000 00:47:32,025 --> 00:47:32,775 51, 1001 00:47:33,698 --> 00:47:34,198 52 1002 00:47:37,284 --> 00:47:38,534 rasulullah(SAW) showed us 1003 00:47:40,660 --> 00:47:41,660 that 1004 00:47:42,242 --> 00:47:48,003 there’s a messenger 1005 00:47:48,003 --> 00:47:49,683 the messenger, 1006 00:47:47,009 --> 00:47:48,859 at the time of intimate relationship, 1007 00:47:51,507 --> 00:47:53,187 it is the kiss 1008 00:47:53,609 --> 00:47:56,809 and we have to understand that a man can’t just jump on his wife 1009 00:47:57,958 --> 00:47:59,398 like a bull. 1010 00:47:59,819 --> 00:48:00,319 No 1011 00:48:00,783 --> 00:48:03,833 You know there’s a messenger here, rasulullah(SAW) taught us, 1012 00:48:04,226 --> 00:48:05,186 Which is 1013 00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:06,890 The kiss is the messenger 1014 00:48:08,335 --> 00:48:09,235 It keeps the love, 1015 00:48:09,664 --> 00:48:11,014 It really polishes the love 1016 00:48:12,000 --> 00:48:12,500 53 1017 00:48:14,652 --> 00:48:15,852 Some of us 1018 00:48:16,525 --> 00:48:17,675 When we have a problem, 1019 00:48:18,058 --> 00:48:19,018 Dispute, 1020 00:48:19,420 --> 00:48:21,100 Small problem, 1021 00:48:21,383 --> 00:48:22,783 With our loved one, you know 1022 00:48:23,436 --> 00:48:25,236 You’ll go and share it with everyone 1023 00:48:25,589 --> 00:48:26,089 No 1024 00:48:26,596 --> 00:48:27,996 You know when you’re wounded 1025 00:48:28,424 --> 00:48:30,424 You don’t leave your wound for the germs 1026 00:48:31,408 --> 00:48:32,488 You don’t 1027 00:48:32,841 --> 00:48:35,091 Because that will be dangerous for your wound 1028 00:48:35,508 --> 00:48:39,308 And when you have dispute with your wife, it’s not available this for anyone 1029 00:48:41,187 --> 00:48:44,287 Because that will dirty the situation and will be so dangerous 1030 00:48:45,701 --> 00:48:48,301 Yes, you may find one brother that you trust so much 1031 00:48:49,186 --> 00:48:50,336 Not only trust his love 1032 00:48:52,061 --> 00:48:53,361 You gotta trust his wisdom 1033 00:48:53,936 --> 00:48:55,886 You gotta trust his knowledge of Islam, 1034 00:48:56,468 --> 00:48:58,118 Because he could really love you, 1035 00:48:58,561 --> 00:48:59,641 But maybe 1036 00:49:00,013 --> 00:49:01,763 He’s the worst person to advice you 1037 00:49:02,169 --> 00:49:06,119 Maybe he could love you but he has no knowledge of Islam to advice you properly 1038 00:49:06,443 --> 00:49:07,493 So this way it’s like 1039 00:49:08,019 --> 00:49:09,869 Leaving your wound open for the gems 1040 00:49:12,413 --> 00:49:14,713 We have to be careful, my brothers, my sisters 1041 00:49:15,097 --> 00:49:15,997 And now we move to 1042 00:49:16,381 --> 00:49:16,881 54 1043 00:49:17,681 --> 00:49:18,831 To know that the health 1044 00:49:19,505 --> 00:49:20,905 The good health of your wife 1045 00:49:21,567 --> 00:49:22,417 It is your health 1046 00:49:23,120 --> 00:49:24,220 It is your good health 1047 00:49:25,153 --> 00:49:26,753 To really show her that you care 1048 00:49:27,757 --> 00:49:29,437 For her health 1049 00:49:29,931 --> 00:49:30,651 Really 1050 00:49:31,172 --> 00:49:32,672 You are engraving in her heart 1051 00:49:34,377 --> 00:49:35,457 Your love 1052 00:49:36,420 --> 00:49:37,520 To care for her health 1053 00:49:39,438 --> 00:49:40,758 That really 1054 00:49:41,238 --> 00:49:43,288 In return, it is strength to your health 1055 00:49:44,203 --> 00:49:46,753 In return, you’re really caring for your own health 1056 00:49:47,368 --> 00:49:48,168 Showing her that 1057 00:49:49,621 --> 00:49:50,521 Will keep the love 1058 00:49:50,976 --> 00:49:51,776 Protect the love 1059 00:49:52,248 --> 00:49:53,148 Increases the love 1060 00:49:54,721 --> 00:49:55,221 55 1061 00:49:57,064 --> 00:49:58,514 Some brothers will think that 1062 00:50:00,886 --> 00:50:02,036 I am right all the time 1063 00:50:02,889 --> 00:50:05,689 Right, I’m always right, no mater what, I’m always right 1064 00:50:06,107 --> 00:50:10,157 They could never accept that wait a second, my brother, no mater how good you are 1065 00:50:11,052 --> 00:50:13,402 You are not perfect. No matter how good you are 1066 00:50:14,067 --> 00:50:18,167 You have short coming. No matter how good you are, you could never be always right 1067 00:50:19,265 --> 00:50:21,065 Get rid of this 1068 00:50:21,603 --> 00:50:22,563 Sickness 1069 00:50:23,121 --> 00:50:26,317 Those people who’d think that I’m always right, may Allah help you 1070 00:50:26,697 --> 00:50:27,597 May Allah cure you 1071 00:50:28,400 --> 00:50:29,600 You are not always right 1072 00:50:30,342 --> 00:50:32,592 The one who’s always right is rasulullah(SAW) 1073 00:50:36,272 --> 00:50:37,472 You are not always right 1074 00:50:38,014 --> 00:50:39,164 Get rid of this disease 1075 00:50:39,587 --> 00:50:40,637 It protects your love 1076 00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:42,500 It increases your love 1077 00:50:43,324 --> 00:50:43,824 56 1078 00:50:45,098 --> 00:50:46,898 Your happiness, 1079 00:50:47,279 --> 00:50:48,719 Your sadness 1080 00:50:48,994 --> 00:50:49,944 Share that with her 1081 00:50:50,405 --> 00:50:50,905 57 1082 00:50:51,365 --> 00:50:52,665 Have mercy on her weakness 1083 00:50:53,348 --> 00:50:54,548 Have mercy 1084 00:50:55,214 --> 00:50:57,014 on her weakness 1085 00:50:57,485 --> 00:51:00,185 Have mercy on her when she’s weak or when she’s strong 1086 00:51:01,753 --> 00:51:03,353 Have mercy on her because she is 1087 00:51:04,596 --> 00:51:05,546 The fragile whistle 1088 00:51:06,279 --> 00:51:07,959 She is the one 1089 00:51:08,582 --> 00:51:09,902 That really 1090 00:51:10,355 --> 00:51:11,755 Take care of your loved ones 1091 00:51:12,348 --> 00:51:13,908 Your children 1092 00:51:14,424 --> 00:51:16,374 And she is the one entrust in your hand 1093 00:51:17,016 --> 00:51:18,916 This is what rasulullah(SAW) showed us 1094 00:51:19,291 --> 00:51:21,191 That this wife is a trust in your hand 1095 00:51:22,557 --> 00:51:23,057 58 1096 00:51:24,800 --> 00:51:26,120 You are the 1097 00:51:26,681 --> 00:51:27,531 Comfortable chest 1098 00:51:28,243 --> 00:51:29,083 For her 1099 00:51:29,596 --> 00:51:30,436 You are 1100 00:51:30,899 --> 00:51:32,349 The one who’d say, lean on me 1101 00:51:33,193 --> 00:51:34,243 In the difficult time 1102 00:51:34,865 --> 00:51:36,165 Lean on me on the sad time 1103 00:51:36,967 --> 00:51:39,117 Lean on me when you need a chest to lean on 1104 00:51:40,382 --> 00:51:42,082 Be that chest for her. Rest assure 1105 00:51:43,357 --> 00:51:44,457 She lean on your chest 1106 00:51:44,971 --> 00:51:47,871 But she will love your heart and you will protect the love 1107 00:51:49,907 --> 00:51:51,587 You’ll protect 1108 00:51:52,122 --> 00:51:54,172 Her love and you’ll protect your marriage 1109 00:51:54,586 --> 00:51:55,786 To be that 1110 00:51:56,207 --> 00:51:57,527 Comfortable 1111 00:51:57,782 --> 00:51:58,742 And soft 1112 00:51:59,112 --> 00:52:00,312 And tender 1113 00:52:00,804 --> 00:52:02,754 Type of a person that she could lean on 1114 00:52:03,138 --> 00:52:03,638 59 1115 00:52:04,821 --> 00:52:05,621 Accept her as is 1116 00:52:06,884 --> 00:52:08,784 This is what rasulullah(SAW) showed us 1117 00:52:09,388 --> 00:52:11,188 That she’s like 1118 00:52:11,674 --> 00:52:13,366 She’s created from the rib, and if we see the rib 1119 00:52:13,734 --> 00:52:14,878 The rib is not straight 1120 00:52:15,277 --> 00:52:16,527 The rib is going this way 1121 00:52:16,979 --> 00:52:18,732 It’s not straight, you know, accept her 1122 00:52:19,556 --> 00:52:21,856 Trying to straighten her, you’ll break the rib 1123 00:52:22,270 --> 00:52:23,370 And that means divorce 1124 00:52:24,121 --> 00:52:24,921 Accept her as is 1125 00:52:25,613 --> 00:52:27,513 Accept her weakness, you will love her 1126 00:52:28,310 --> 00:52:29,210 She would love you 1127 00:52:29,672 --> 00:52:32,472 You would protect the love and Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala 1128 00:52:32,868 --> 00:52:34,768 rasulullah(SAW) showed us that you may 1129 00:52:35,178 --> 00:52:38,628 dislike one habit or one manner of her but you’ll love another manner 1130 00:52:40,248 --> 00:52:42,098 accept her as is. Finally I would say 1131 00:52:42,963 --> 00:52:44,513 my brothers, my sisters, no. 60 1132 00:52:50,161 --> 00:52:54,061 means having the good intention for your wife at all times. It goes a long way 1133 00:52:55,420 --> 00:52:59,020 because that intention Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala monitors your intention 1134 00:52:59,609 --> 00:53:01,859 Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala monitors your heart 1135 00:53:02,954 --> 00:53:05,554 Have good neeah, have a good intention for your wife 1136 00:53:07,619 --> 00:53:09,969 We go back to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala who say 1137 00:53:18,125 --> 00:53:20,525 from His signs that He created for you, from you 1138 00:53:22,433 --> 00:53:25,183 Maids, means wives so you may dwell in tranquility 1139 00:53:26,789 --> 00:53:28,889 And Allah caused among you, love and mercy 1140 00:53:29,664 --> 00:53:32,714 May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala fill our homes with tranquility 1141 00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:35,120 Love and mercy 1142 00:53:35,445 --> 00:53:38,080 my brothers a listener can be much better than a speaker 1143 00:53:38,520 --> 00:53:39,420 jazakumullah khair 1144 00:53:40,212 --> 00:53:41,712 please remember me in your dua 1145 00:53:42,606 --> 00:53:45,056 “ Assalam u alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”