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“Bismillah ar Rehman ar
Raheem, alhumdullilah he Rab il Alamin,

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almursaleen wa khaatim
un nabeen wa saft khalaq a ijmaeen

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qaool e imabad

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Praise for Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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The one we ask help, mercy, forgiveness

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and we seek refuge with
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala from

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the bad deeds of ourselves

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and the evil of ourselves.

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Whoever Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala guided will never be misguided.

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But whoever Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala leave to be astray, abandon,

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leave them in charge of their
own self, they’ll never be guided.

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They are in a serious trouble.

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I be witness there’s no Lord
or Thee worthy to be worshipped but

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
one and only one and Muhammad (PBUH)

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his servant, his messenger, the
best and purest of Allah’s creation,

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the face of glad tidings,
the sweet heart for the good hearts,

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for the good people.

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The most beloved to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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First of all my brothers,
my sisters, dear believers,

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the best greetings of
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala to all of you

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and upon all the bright
faces that makes “sajood” to

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala,the one and
only one deserving of these “sajood”

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and to all the sincere hearts

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that finds comfort, happiness,
satisfaction, content, trust, success

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with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala.

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The one who command us
in the Quran, remind us continuously

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“All you believe, fear Allah as Allah deserve
to be feared and do not die except

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by the state of Islam”

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Today inshAllah we will go
through the second part of the ITLC

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Islamic tender love and care, which is

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Pointing the finger, politely at the sisters

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You may call this particular speech

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This particular “khutba”

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Snap out of it sisters

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Sisters, this “khutba” might sound …chilly

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But it’s all full of
respect for you, full of love for you

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It is better to listen to a chilly
talk, a chilly reminder to make you

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Snap out of certain practice
you are doing that could really

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Lead your ho relationship
into bankruptcy, into divorce

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It is better to listen to this chilly talk

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Better than living

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the miserable life of divorce

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We could really avoid

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This particular crisis

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By having

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One line

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One “ayah”, one “hadith” of
rasulullah(SAW) , one quick reminder

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I remind you again

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We first started the “khutba” ITLC,

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pointing the finger politely at the
brothers and we said we start with the

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brothers because

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when the man is happy at
home, that means one person is happy

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but when the sister, the wife is happy at home,
that means the whole family is happy.

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We go to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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You wanna talk to Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala, very simple

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Go in your salaat, make
sajood, talk to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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You wanna listen to Allah
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Very simple

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Read the Quran. Allah subhanahu
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“from His signs

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That He created for you, from you
maids, so you may dwell in tranquility”

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And Allah put among you

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Love and mercy

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Tranquility, it is a great matter, it is a great aim.

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It is a great accomplishment for the marriage

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Tranquility, “sakeena”

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Some farce

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Tranquility. Or let us take a look at

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The sikina, the knife,
not the sakeena, the sikina

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There’s a difference
between sakeena, which is tranquility

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Sikina, which is the knife

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That slaughter some of these marriages

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For example, you may see a wife

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Ignoring her husband
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Duty towards him and
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Thinks that she’s really collecting

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Ajar and collecting blessing.

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In reality

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In reality, this woman
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And reading the Quran

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The Quran is cursing her.
So we are not reaching tranquility

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And we are not practicing

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The real Islamic tender love
and care. Another matter that really

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slaughters the marriage. When
a wife takes off any time she wants

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to anywhere she wants,
she hang out with anyone she wants,

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without her husband’s
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that really

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get us sakeena

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it will get a sikina, deep into the marriage,
which is a knife, into the marriage

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a wife who really

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forget

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that rasulullah(SAW) described her as

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a fragile whistles

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rasulullah(SAW) described her as a fragile whistles

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that she forgets she becomes a missile

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missiles to shatter the
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we’ve seen this many times

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you don’t get close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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you don’t gain happiness by hitting your husband

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some of us will laugh at this

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but in reality, this is

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what so call terrible things that make you laugh

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so that particular woman

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really she’s not gaining tranquility, she’s gaining

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sikina to slaughter the marriage,
she’s becoming a missile not whistles

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missiles to shatter the marriage

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sister, snap out of it

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snap out of it sister

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your happiness is

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not in the hand of the shaitaan

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you are not shaitaan representative.
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you become shaitaan representative. 
You are not the shaitaan

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the enemy is the shaitaan
and your husband is not the
shaitaan. The enemy is the shaitaan

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sister take a look at some of these scenarios

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I’ll be the wife, if not
race to be that wife. Well,
rasulullah(SAW) described that the best

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Joy in this life is a good wife

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Life is a joy and the
best joy in life is a good wife

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Are you that wife sisters?

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Race to be that wife, because racing

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To be good and to do
good, it is really a command and it is

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A great great tip

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From Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala in the Quran

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And there are so many, many ways that
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala in the Quran

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urge us to race, to be good.
Are you that woman? Are you that wife

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who are

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you have two choices sister. You either

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to become the most beautiful wife for your
husband in heaven or walayad u billah

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to be hatabin naar, either the
hoor, which is the most beautiful,

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you’ll be  the most beautiful

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wife in the jannah or walayad
u billah, the wood of the hell fire

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may Allah forbid any of
my sister that are listening to me

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now, to be the wood for hell fire.
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala honour you

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and make you really benefit by these particular
advice and words. Are you the wife

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who will hold her husband’s hand

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and she will say to him, my husband

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my eyes

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will not have the mascara of sleep

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my eyes will not have the
mascara of sleep till you are happy

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till you are satisfied, whether I upset you,
whether you are upset at something

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whether somebody upset you, my wife

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my eyes will not have the
taste of sleep till you are happy.

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Are you that wife? If not, race to
be that wife, my sister, race to be

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The hoor, the beautiful
wife in the jannah, race to be

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Shams-un-nahaar wa qamar-ul-laeel

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The sun of the daytime and the moon of the night
time. The sun that gives us comfort

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And warmth and guidance. The moon
that also give us beautiful feeling

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The moon that give us
also, guidance, not the sun that burns

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Be the sun that gives guidance, my sister

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Shams-un-nahaar wa qamar-ul-laeel

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Really be the big winner

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Listen to rasulullah(SAW). Copy our
mothers, the wives of rasulullah(SAW)

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Race to be the night,

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The moon of the night

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And the sun of the daytime, my sisters

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Take a look at some of these ingredients

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The ingredients of the big winner

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As rasulullah(SAW) described,
this particular good woman,

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She has three major ingredients that
when her husband looks at her assarat

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She will please him by just looking at her

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Are you that wife? Race to be that wife

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Never too late

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When he ask her, when he
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She’d listen to him, she’d
not say, I’m not your slave

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She would listen to him, she would obey him

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Of course we obey with the
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And when he leaves her growing

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She will protect

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His privacy, she’ll protect his
honour, she’ll preserve his honour

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She’ll take care of his children, she’ll preserve

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His great

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Honour

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Are you that sister that enjoys these three
ingredients that if he looks at you

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You are pleasing him, when he ask you, when he

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Tell you to do something, you are
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You are preserving him

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These are the ingredients of the big winner

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The sister, the wife that really
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rasulullah(SAW) also showed
that you are the greatest treasure

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be that great treasure my sisters

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by saying

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that the best a man will have
as a treasure, which is a good wife

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race to be that great treasure my sister

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you have the ingredients

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to be that great treasure.
You have the ingredients to
kick the shaitaan out of your life

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you have the ingredients to remain

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the fragile whistles.

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Remain the fragile whistles my sister

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and quit being missiles,
if you happen to be one. Now

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for us my sisters we have to know

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that in a relationship, there’s really an account.
You have an account with your husband

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he has an account with you and if you keep
depositing good things into your husband’s

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account, you really have a good credit

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but if you keep withdrawing

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and you have no deposit, you don’t deposit
patience, you don’t deposit goodness

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you don’t deposit obedience, you don’t
deposit forgiveness, you don’t deposit

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taking care of yourself
and looking your best at home

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you don’t deposit being
soft and wonderful and gentle

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and fragile whistles. You
don’t deposit goodness into the account

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you just keep withdrawing. If you keep
withdrawing from your husband’s account

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and you have no deposit, what will happen? The
relation will end up in bankruptcy

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bankruptcy means divorce. walayad u billah

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so relation needs really

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to think of it like the bank
account. You know you keep depositing

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you keep depositing and that man

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in his heart will really keep that credit for you.

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Now. subhanAllah.

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I mentioned in the last speech that the greatest

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Bond

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It is

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Islam

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My sister, for us in this furious, stormy life

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Don’t kid yourself

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The beauty could fade
away. The money the status.

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Don’t kid yourself my sister

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We have to really suck

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Success you know. Take look at the word success

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Its not called lick, it’s called
suck, success it’s called not lickcess

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Success. We have to suck from the
teaching of rasulullah(SAW) in this life

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So for us, to keep this
marriage bond, to keep this marriage

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really shoulder to shoulder.
If something hit this marriage

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you know, its not effecting the
roots, it may really effect the leaves

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but the roots are really
strong, we have to keep Islam our bond

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and enjoy your life.
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared

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in the Quran

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closest to the meaning whoever is doing good
deeds, male or female and they have iman

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they have faith Allah’s
promising them to have a good life

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now, one of your good deeds is being a
great wife. Being a wonderful wife

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copy the teachings of the sahabiat. copy the
teaching of the big winner, my sisters

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you’ll never bankrupt

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rasulullah(SAW) one time

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approached by a group of people and they want
to make sajood prostration…for him,

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out of respect, out of love

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out of greatness and glory. rasulullah(SAW)
refused this. They said ya rasulullah

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those people making sajood prostration to
their great one, to the one they love

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we want to make sajood to you ya
rasulullah. rasulullah(SAW) refused

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and closest to the meaning said and declared

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if there is anyone, if I have to order anyone to
make sajood, prostration to anyone

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it would have been the wife for her husband

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look at the value of the husband.

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We spoke about your value in
the previous khutba. Now we are
reminding you of the value of your man

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And this is authentic

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Now take a look sister.
What type of a wife you want to be.

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Do you want to be

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The wife

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that

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end up being the most beautiful
wife in the life after, in paradise

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do you wanna live the Islamic life that gives
the wife the greatest value on earth

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take a look at what

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what happened actually
before Islam. Before Islam, my sisters

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they used to bury you alive and Islam
came and protected you. Take a look at

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many examples I’m going to show you

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what is the value of
woman or what do they say about woman

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starting from Islam. Islam
says that life is a joy and
the best joy in life is a good woman

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its you sister. Islam says that the
best a man could have as a treasure

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is a good wife. That’s you my sister. Take a look

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the Chinese will say that you have to have the stick

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the more you hit the woman, it becomes
like the carpet, it becomes cleaner

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Islam says that you are the best joy in life

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Take a look at the

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Polish. They say that
the shaitaan, Satan swallowed
the woman but could not digest her

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What happened? Islam says, you are the
best joy in life. Look at your value.

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What else

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The Italians, they say, hold the stick for
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Hold the stick. Islam
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My sisters, what type of a wife you want to be

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The French, we heard about
the French romance, false romance.

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We have the best romance on Earth. Islamic romance

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The French they say that the woman

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Evil that you must have but Islam
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You are the best treasure a
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They say

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That it takes the shaitaan,
the devil, ten hours to trick

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It takes him one hour to trick ten men

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But it takes the women one hour
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But Islam says, you are the best joy in life.
What kind of a woman you want to be

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My sister? A Muslim woman or a
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I’m coming more

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The Greek they say don’t trust the woman
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you are the best joy in life. The English,

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what does the English say about women?
They say that the woman has a long

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hair

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and a short brain.

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Islam says, you are the
best joy in life. My sister,
what type of a woman you want to be

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We go back to the Japanese

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The Japanese also they say that

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The devil is the student of the woman

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And the teacher of the man

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Islam says, you are

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Really the best joy in life
and you are the best treasure
in life. Look at your value in Islam

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And there’s much more. If I really have a tongue
from heaven, I cant describe to you,

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Your great value because it is

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By Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala designated
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To show your value.

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The Serb, the Serb they say, the man

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Has two happiness

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The happiness when he gets married and the
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Islam says, you are the best joy in life.

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Take a look at this big winner. A woman

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Happen. This is a genuine story

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A woman supposed to be really

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So beautiful, she happened
to be a knock out so called

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Really beautiful. What
we call it gorgeous she get
married to a man who is not nice looking.

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The story says even he's ugly. The story
described him by that word ugly so

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For us we don’t have anyone who’s ugly, who
make wadoo and take down his face to

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala and make sajood

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and make prostration to Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala, you are so beautiful my brother

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but the story says that this man is not nice
looking. He married this gorgeous woman

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the woman took his hand

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and said to him my husband

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I

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married you

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you are not so good looking

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but she described it in a different way

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and I am patient and I am

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a gift for you from Allah

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and you are thankful

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the thankful people as-shakir-was-sabir-fil-jannah

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she said the one who thank Allah

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and the one who has patience

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because of Allah, they are both in the jannah

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look how she looked at her
husband. Not knocking him down and saying

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you know, you are ugly
looking and you know i'm gorgeous. No

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she said both of us in the jannah

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Allah gave you me

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And you thanked Allah

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And Allah gave me you and
I’m patient fi-sabil-lilah,

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We are both in the jannah

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Finally or close to finally, my
sisters I want to look, to take a look

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At this particular, tarbu mother. You know tarbu

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The word tarbu. You hear it like from
tarbukhar. But if you think about that word

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Tarbu from tarrabu, tarbia, good manners

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This tarbu mother, great
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And a great

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Advice on her wedding night. I
would say this quickly in Arabic
and I would translate it in English

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This tarbu mother is telling her daughter on
her wedding night. This great mother

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Oh my daughter, my beloved daughter, you’re
leaving the home that you’re raised into

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A home which is strange to you and a
companion you haven’t get along with

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Be

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A slave for him

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Actually she said, be a servant
for him, he will be a slave for you

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And take care of ten important matters.

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Number one and two

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Live with him in a happy
content way, in an obedient way

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Be in a way that you’re obeying him and

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You are content with him

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The third and the fourth. Check the way

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Or where his eyes fall
and what his nose smell. He
should never see ugly thing about you

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And he should always smell beautiful thing from you

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The fifth and the sixth. She said

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Take care of the timing of his food and

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His sleep. And amputation of his hunger

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It is an anger and ruining his
sleep, also it is vulgar and anger

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The seventh and the eighth

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Take care of his wealth and his children

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With the wealth, proper
management and with the children

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Proper mannering, Islamic
mannering. The ninth and the tenth

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Don’t disobey him. Don’t

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Argue with him

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And don’t release his secret

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Arguing and disobeying him,
his chest will be tight against you

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And bitter against you. And releasing his secret,
you can't be secure from his revenge

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Finally she tell her daughter

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Don’t be happy, when
he’s worried and sad. And don’t be sad

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While he’s happy

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And jolly

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And you have to be

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The most among the people to glorify him,
he will be the most generous to you

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And you will never reach satisfaction and

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Whatever you love, you can’t get
except by putting him ahead of you

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From the thing you love and the thing you hate

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You put him ahead of you and
Allah will choose the best for you

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My sisters, you have to remember

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Naturally Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala created us to walk with our foot

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Try to change this nature. Try
to walk with your hand and your legs up

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What will happen? You can’t go a long distance.

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You’ll get tired, you’ll
fall, you’ll break your head.

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Anytime we change the nature
of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala, we don’t go long

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We will get tired, we will fall,
we’ll break our head. What does that mean?

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala made
the man in charge of the steering wheel

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Not two people. Two people in
charge of the steering
wheel, will cause an accident

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala my sisters

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Made the man in charge of the
steering wheel. Don’t change that nature

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Yes you could ask the man, the husband,

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Honey can you make a right turn,
sure i'll make a right turn

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Or can you go straight, yes
we’ll go straight but the steering wheel

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Into the husbands hand

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Naturally. You try to change
that nature, we will end up in a divorce

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We will end up facing
very miserable relationship

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Now subhan-Allah

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This particular advice my sister.
It might have sound a little bit chilly

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But for you to have you this
particular. Snap out of it sister

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Politely pointing the finger at you, it’s better

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than living with a miserable
divorce or a miserable relationship

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with this advice may Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala cause it to be
a benefit for you my sister

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and cause you to remain the
crown on top of the man’s
head because the good woman

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is the precious crown on top
of the man’s head. Take care of the head

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keep the head up because if
the head goes down, what will happen?

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The crown will fall on the floor

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The crown will fall between
the feet. Keep the crown
high, on top of the man’s head

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Very precious crown. You are
sister, the very precious crown
on top of your husband’s head

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Take care of that head. May
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala cause 
you my sisters, all of you

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Listening to me or watching me to be

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The hoor in paradise, the
beautiful wife for your husband in paradise

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May Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
cause the “sakeena”, the tranquility

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In your marriage, in this life
and give you jannah and your 
husband in the life after

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a listener can be much better than a speaker

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“jazakumullah khair. Assalam u
alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”

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“jazakumullah khair. Assalam u alaikum wa 
rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”