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“Bismillah ar Rehman ar
Raheem, alhumdullilah he Rab il Alamin,

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Al Rehman ar Raheem, noor al samaat ul arz,

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nahmed u nastaeena wa nastaghfir ul nastahdeed

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wa naoozobillah himinashaee wa
anfusanah nafsiaana amadana wa ahdillaho

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al muhtad

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wa ashwadullah illaha
illah wahdahoo la shareeka lah

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wa ash hud unna muhammeden wa abdu hu wa rasulu ho

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imam almursaleen wa khaatim un
nabeen wa saft khalaq a ijmaeen

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saeeyadi sadaat al Arab wal ajam

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fakhria faya aiyuhun rajeeoona
fa iksar o minas salaate alaee

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salalah ho alaeehi wa ashaab e
wasallam tasleem ul kafeera”

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Praise for Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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The one we ask help, mercy, forgiveness

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and we see cru fig with
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala from

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the bad deeds of ourselves and the evil of ourselves.

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Whoever Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala guided will never be misguided.

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But whoever Allah subhanahu
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leave them in charge of their
own self, they’ll never be guided.

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They are in a serious trouble.

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I be witness there’s no Lord
or Thee worthy to be worshipped but

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala one
and only one and Muhammad (PBUH)

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his servant, his messenger,
the best and purest of Allah’s creation,

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the face of glad tidy, the
sweet heart for the good hearts,

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for the good people.

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First of all my brothers, sisters, dear believers,

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the best greetings of Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala to all of you

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and upon all the bright
faces that makes “sajood” to

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala
and to all the sincere hearts

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that finds comfort, happiness, satisfaction, content,

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trust with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala.

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Today’s topic, today’s reminder,

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today’s vitamin

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It is about a matter each and every one of us

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really needs

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Its called reviving the Islamic spirit at home.

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Another name you could call it ITLC

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Islamic, tender, love and care.

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It is two part “khutba”, two part series

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The first part pointing the
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At the husband, at ourselves, the males

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The second part of the speech
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politely at the sisters

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ITLC Islamic, tender, love and care

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Today I’d talk with the
brothers, pointing the
finger politely at the males,

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at ourselves, at the husbands

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Why?

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‘cause they say, if the man
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one person is happy

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but if the woman is happy at
home, that means the whole family is happy.

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Speaking of happiness, Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala give us a great aim

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A great

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Reminder

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A great warning

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by reminding us continuously
to have fear of Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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to have Tak-wa-Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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and

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to reach Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala with “la ilaha
illalah muhammad ur rasul Allah”

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to reach Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala with the state of Islam

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All you believe, fear Allah as
Allah deserve to be feared and

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do not die except by the state of Islam

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So dying

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By the state of Islam, it is the aim

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For the pious people

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For the greatest people, for the Prophets as well

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Meeting Allah subhanahu
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Takwa Allah, we’ve heard these
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In the Quran so many times,
we’ve heard it, what does it mean?

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We go back to Imam Ali(RA) who said

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Closest to the meaning Imam
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Takwa Allah, it means

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Fearing Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala. it’s not just
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Takwa Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala also means

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Putting on practice what Allah
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leaving the Quran behind our back

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living the Quran and putting the Quran in practice.

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Takwa  Allah subhanahu
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satisfied with the little things that

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala gave us

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But Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala in reality gave us

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Huge things. Are we happy?

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Takwa Allah, it means also
preparing for the long journey
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Preparing for death, preparing
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Am I ready to meet Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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If I die five minutes, or one hour

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That’s a serious question. Do
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Now we go back to the real
topic which is ITLC, Islamic, tender,love and care

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala in the Quran declared

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Closest to the meaning,
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that “from His signs

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That He created for you, from
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Maids, so you may dwell in tranquility”

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Muslim scholars concluded from
this particular “ayah” that
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That’s tranquility, “sakeena”.
Do we really have “sakeena” in our life?

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Do we really have tranquility,
love, comfort, peace in our relationship

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There’s a great difference between FTLC and ITLC

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F False tender love and
care and that becomes “sikeena”

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a knife to slaughter the
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“sakeena”, it means tranquility and comfort and love

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“sikina” means knife

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knife to slaughter the
relation. Take look at those
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comfort, love, by applying
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for example, the man who took his wife to

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a house of “shayateen”, where
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having dinner with his Muslim wife

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what happens,

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at end of the evening, at
home, did she tell him I feel
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I’d like to read Bukhari, I
feel so good, I want to make Tahajjud. No way

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She told him, you know this
woman, you’re making me really fool.

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You’re trying to make fun of
me taking me to this particular 
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I don’t know this woman. Both of them are fighting

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The “shaitaan” is there.

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Referee, the “shaitaan” ended
really their fight in a divorce

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Why? Because we take the
command of Allah subhanahu
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Not to follow the footsteps of “shaitaan”

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And much more. FTLC false tender love and care

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A person who said strictly to
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So she may look,

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politically correct but we
call it, satanically correct.
You know the business will flourish that way

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did he apply ITLC?

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Not at all

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By taking her “hijaab” off,
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Husband wants to kill his
wife. Alhamdulillah, Allah
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the marriage also ended in a divorce

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Another story for those who
thought that they could apply
ITLC but they did it the wrong way FTLC.

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By thinking that he could be
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to the theatre with

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Their neighbour and male
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The muslim woman, I’d like to
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I’d like to go with them to a dance

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He thought that he could apply
“sakeena” at his home, you
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That’s false love

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What happens

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That neighbour

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Is after his wife and the man
was looking for a gun to
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and Allah saved them subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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He previously shot his ex wife in the face

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And he spent many years in jail in United States

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So may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala guide us

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To do

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The right

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ITLC Islamic tender love and care.

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Simply talking

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala declared

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala said
“all you believe “koo” not “alkoo”,

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“koo” means prevent yourself
and your families from the hell fire”

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“alkoo”, it means, sounds the same, “koo””alkoo”

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“alkoo” means throw yourself
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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala did
not say this. So for us to take this

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Particular “ayah”, this
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And hang it behind our back, we really suffer

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We are in a serious trouble

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Simply talking

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Those people who take Islam
for a ride, you know like a horse

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 to ride in top of Islam, to
chase your “duniya”, to chase your life

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You ended

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What? Do you get you “duniya”

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No, your “duniya”

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Will end up kicking you. You
lose your “duniya” and you lose your “din”

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To cut from our din

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And to patch our life

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Its okay, take off the hijaab,
cut from your din, patch your life

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Do you get your “duniya” and
“din”. You end up losing your “duniya”

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And “din”, “wal ayad o billah”

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Simply talking, math

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Math, simple math

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Us

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Minus

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Islam equals zero

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Your

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Wealth minus Islam

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Equal poverty

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Your strength, big muscles

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Minus Islam

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Equal defeat and weakness

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Us minus Islam equals zero “wal ayad o billah”

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Now rasul Allah(SAW) showing

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That we have a bond

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You know we tie two people together

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You can’t ties them with piece of hair

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You can’t tie them with piece of clinix tissue

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You need a strong bond

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What is that bond? Is that the beauty?

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The beauty could fade away

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Is the bond the wealth? The wealth could run out

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Is that bond the status daughter of so and so

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That also could fade away

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The real bond

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Between a man and a woman,
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Stormy

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Life

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The real bond is Islam

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Don’t kid yourself

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The real life is Islam. If she
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That’s a bonus

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If she has Islam, beauty,
wealth and status, “Alhamdu lillah”, that’s a bonus

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But get a grip of

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Islam

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The advice of rasul Allah(SAW)

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Speaking of rasul Allah (SAW),
we know that the woman is created from the rib

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Where is the rib my brothers,
my sisters. Is the rib in
the fist so you could punch it

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No

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Is the rib

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In the foot, so you could kick
it. Not at all. Take a
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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala . it
is knot by accident. The rib

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Is next to the heart. So you
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So you could treat her nice,
so you could treat her as a fragile whistles

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As rasul Allah(SAW) taught us
that she is a trust in your hand.

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The woman you can’t buy, you
can’t rent, you can’t lease.

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The woman is entrust in a man’s

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Hand. As rasul Allah(SAW)
taught us so she’s next to the heart

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The rib is next to the heart,
so you could take good care of her.

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Speaking of the rib rasul
Allah(SAW) is showing us a great tip

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rasul Allah(SAW) the best of Allah’s creation

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showing us

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that this rib

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is crooked and if you try to
straighten it, what happens

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you’ll break it

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break in it, that means a
divorce, so accept her crooked
my brother, you’ll be happy

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because you are not perfect as well

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we are not perfect. Except her
crooked, you will enjoy her.

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No on that particular issue,
you are not perfect and she is not perfect

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You’ll be really happy to
think that way and take this
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who also showed us the great value of the

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Woman

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Of course we’re gonna show the
great value of the man, but
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By showing that

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Closest to the meaning that life is a joy

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And the best joy in life

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Is a good woman

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Look at this great value,
the best joy in life is a good

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So my brothers, my sisters

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Let us understand

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Now we started with the man because we said

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if the man is happy, it's one
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That means the whole family is happy

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rasul Allah(SAW) declared

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I’m the best among you and I’m
the best to my family, to my wives

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So therefore, for you to be great to your wife

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It is a business with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala.

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It is a great business with
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At the Islamic wisdom

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At the good treatment

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Leave the man at the side we
talk aboutrasul Allah(SAW) receiving a gift from the

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Sahabia…they’re sending rasul
Allah(SAW) a gift which is food

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As the servant walking towards
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Our mother Ayesha,may Allah be
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So the food

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Fall on the floor

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rasul Allah(SAW)

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did he start kicking and
shoving and pushing? Not at
all. These are not the manners

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of the Quran because rasul
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these are not the manners of
the best of Allah’s creation

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the most beloved to Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala rasul Allah(SAW)

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immediately, he started
picking up food from the
floor, giving everybody around him

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and saying

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eat, your mother get jealous

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look at that wisdom of Islam. Another quick story

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a Muslim imam, sitting down at
his house, giving a lecture, a “daras”

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a speech, about marriage and the student

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is listening, enjoying the topic

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his wife is listening at the back

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now the topic became more rosy
for the students when he
started talking about marrying

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more than one woman. Two
women, three women and his
wife doesn’t like the topic

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and boiling and he started
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what happened?

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The wife of the imam, the teacher

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Put water, cold water in a pot
and in front of his students,
came and pour it all over his head

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He looked at her in a nice, calm, wise way

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ITLC Islamic tender love and
care, he looked at her and he said

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She thundered and then she rained

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Everybody laughed

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No pushing, no shoving, no kicking, wallah e

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No one gets close to Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala by punching your wife

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In the face. You don’t get
close to Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala.

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Islamic wisdom

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My brothers, my sisters, even the companions

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And the pious people, what did
they say? They say when something is wrong

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With their horse, their horse
is giving them a hard time or
their wife is giving them a hard time,

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they don’t point the finger at
their wife, at their horse, they say

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Means they say “I must have committed a sin,

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That’s why I find the effect
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My

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Camel or horse”. Now

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I’d like you to be aware of
something dangerous. Its called

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The

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Dangerous gum

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This chewing gum

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Some of us will go to the
super market and check the
ingredients. Is this “halal””haram”

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Whatever. And

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Often those people who use the
same practice to check
the ingredients “halal” and

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”haram”, they are using a dangerous gum

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this gum

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you will get it from the super
market of the “shaitaan”. I
urge my brothers to quit this gum

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this gum is called divorce

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a man will be chewing

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a sword in his mouth. Every
once and then he tells his wife I’ll divorce you,

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I’m gonna divorce you, I’m
going to kick you. It’s like a chewing gum in his

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Mouth and this particular,
dangerous chewing gum will end up

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Deteriorating his marriage

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Will end up

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Really

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Shaking and breaking the
trust of his wife and the love

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To chew this particular gum
and every once in a while
he say I’m gonna divorce you

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I’m going top kick you out

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Please quit this gum because
the “shaitaan” loves divorce

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The “shaitaan” hates marriages. Take an example

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The “shaitaan” would put his, you can call it,

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Office, top of the water,
daily and will call the devils
so the leader of the crooks will ask

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What have you done? He would
say, I was after that
man till I made him steal…okay

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What have you done? I was
after that man till I
made him do so and so….fine

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What have you done? I was

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after

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that man

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till I made him divorce his wife…..you…come here

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then the “shaitaan” will call
him forward so he will be crowned and rewarded

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and “shaitaan” hate marriage

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and loves divorce

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so my sisters and my brothers,
you have to understand
your husband is not the enemy

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your wife is not the enemy,
the “shaitaan” is the enemy.
Allah declared him as enemy

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take him as an enemy, be aware of him

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full time. I will tell you
quickly, some of the ITLC, right now

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some of the ingredients of
Islamic tender love and care

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because we could teach
the word tender love and care

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take an example, starting from
Assalamualaikum wa rehmat ullah.

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You know when you come home.

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You enter your home and you
say Assalamualaikum wa rehmat
ullah, you are really
spreading a positive energy,

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you’re spreading peace

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Not only that rasul Allah(SAW)
taught us that when you say that

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You kick the “shaitaan” out,
so you’re in with your left foot for example

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You’re kicking the “shaitaan”
out of your home. A brother said, 
wallahi I came home

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I was so mad at my wife, so
much, I never get mad at her
since we got married that much

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Luckily that she was wise and she just

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Did not face me, she just
turned her back and walked
away and I remembered uh oh

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When I came home, I didn’t say Assalamualaikum.

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He said wallah e I went
outside the door and then
within seconds I came inside the home

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Assalamualaikum wa rehmat
ullah she doesn’t even hear
me, but the evening ended in love and jokes and

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Peace

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Why, because the “shaitaan” is out of the home

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Another ITLC ingredient, to
call your wife with the best name she loves

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Call her with the best names

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She loves

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Call her sweetie pie

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Call her honey bun, whatever
you like. Rasul Allah(SAW) used to use that

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Yes

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By saying to our mother

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Ya Ayesha, ya Ayesh

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This is sweet calling her

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Sweet talking to her

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Another ITLC

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Ingredient. When you shake the hand of your wife

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That particular

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Beautiful

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Energy that goes through

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And you are shaking

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Your sins and her sins and
there’s a beautiful contact

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Another ingredient  to smile in your wife’s face

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Some of us

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Will have a huge smile

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From one ear to the second ear

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Outside home

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But when he comes home,
the mouth is out of service

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Like a dry bread and if he
smiles, he thinks his face will crack

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No. smile in your wife’s face

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Wallah e you get rewarded
and you get love and much more

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ITLC  looking good for your wife

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Some of us will look their best outside home

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Nicely done, when he goes
home, he looks like he wants
to go under his car, change the oil.

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You know how he’s dressed. His
beard going that direction, his hair going that way

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You know,

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No, looking good

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For your wife

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It increases that I

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T

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Making a space for your wife,
you know she’s coming and you
move and you say honey, here,

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I warmed the seat for you.

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Sit down, have a seat, I warmed the seat for you

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Brother

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You warmed the seat for her, she will warm

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Her heart for you

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Another ITLC ingredient

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Some of us

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They really appreciate their wife

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But that appreciation

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It is only in the heart

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Take it from the tongue

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That’s in the heart, put it in
the tongue of your mouth.
Deliver. Show that you appreciate her.

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A gift by the way. It is also
ITLC ingredient. It increases
the Islamic tender love and care

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Because rasul Allah(SAW) declared

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Most of the deeds that
Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala loves

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Such as happiness you bring your Muslim

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And that means if you’re bringing her a gift

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and you say Al Rabbi, I wanna please her

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That’s happiness brought to a
Muslim and that’s the happiness to your wife

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That’s the business with Allah
subhanahu wa'ta'Ala. It is a successful business

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Imam Ali (RA) used to practice something called

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Sometimes if he hears
something and he pretended he does not hear it

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If she does something bad, he
pretend he did not see it but

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It does not mean huge…bad
things because something huge

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Bad

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You got to help her against the “shaitaan”

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By ignoring her

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That means you’re helping the
“shaitaan”  against her but
you pretend you did not hear that word,

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its beautiful

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Another ITLC ingredient,

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To preserve the tongue

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Because if you’re angry

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And you let your tongue lose,
sometimes you say something my brother

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It takes years to clean and to
white out or wipe out. ITLC ingredient

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Which is

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Something really important

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A lot of women, a lot
of wives, they complain about

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That our husband does not listen to us

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In reality when your wife
comes to complain to you, this
is a tip for you my brother, for me

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When she comes to complain to
you, she doesn’t really
want you to solve the problem,

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She just wants you

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To be a listener, be a good
listener. Give her these
receiving elements called the ears

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Like a satellite. Give it to her

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Let her

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Talk

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And listen my brothers

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ITLC, there are so many ingredients,

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Such as ignoring to be angry

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Avoid to be angry

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How? Keeping “wadoo” at all
time. It’ll help you to be
more balanced and not to get angry

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and if you happen to get angry,

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listen to rasul Allah(SAW) who
said, if you’re angry sit down

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Ad if you’re sitting down

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Lie down

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Some of us will say, oh if I
lie down, she’ll come
and kick me in the stomach.

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No

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She will not kick you in the stomach

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You will feel good in the stomach.

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You’ll feel peaceful

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There are so many ingredients of ITLC such as

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Never dig into your wife’s past

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You are not Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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The past

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Belongs to Allah subhanahu
wa'ta'Ala, does not belong to you.

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I met a family, who are really
suffering miserable fights, one time after the other,

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simply because the husband
happened to dig into something 
happened ten years ago.

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Don’t dig into your wife’s past

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Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala is in charge

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As a matter of fact.

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It will help us as an ITLC

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To consider ourself as a
courier.you are not the provider to your family,

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Allah’s the provider but you
are the courier of the “rizq”.

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There are so many ingredients
of ITLC but the time is really

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Racing to cut us

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I will say finally

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Helping

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And putting peace between a
husband and a wife, it is a
great practice, it is a great business

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with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala. Sometimes

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Like the family who unfortunately

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The man who killed his wife
here in Toronto, killed her
sister went to the eighteenth
floor and committed suicide

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I looked at the bodies

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Covered in the box and I said
subhan Allah, they needed
somebody maybe half an hour, an hour

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To put peace between them

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To save this particular tragedy from happening

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But for us my brothers, my sisters

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Fixing between a husband and a
wife, putting peace between them,

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It is a great business
with Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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My brothers my sisters,
may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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Help us

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To

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Live with

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“sakeena”

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“sakeena”  tranquility. ITLC ,
right, Islamic tender love and care

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may Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala help us to live
with Takw  Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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and to meet Allah subhanahu wa'ta'Ala

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with the state of Islam

477
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remember a listener can be much better than a speaker

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“jazakumullah khair. Assalam u
alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”

479
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“jazakumullah khair. Assalam u
alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh”